Hey! I am a white woman from Poland and my bf is a brown Indian man. We met 2 and a half year ago, became friends, we started dating 8 months ago and he has moved into my apartment in France about two months ago.

He told his parents about me around a month and half after we started dating. Their initial reaction was an “okay” and then nothing apart from some occasionally inquiries about me, like asking if I’m doing okay or not, or if I need anything from India, etc.

But my bf said that few years before he left for his uni, his parents sometimes told him, “If you end up marrying a white woman, keep yourself prepared for a divorce, these white folks love divorcing each other over the slightest inconvenience.” These are the only things they said about white people as far as he knows.

We (my bf, his parents and I) soon talked on video calls, and it’s safe to say that they like me. His family has a small history of marriages with people from other races (mainly white), so maybe that’s why they were so accepting? They also sent us some gifts (like this small statue of elephants they got from a local trip), idk what to think of this, but my bf just accepted it and placed it someplace nice.

My family on the other hand are very conservative and racist. They openly pass derogatory comments on brown, black and Asians, call them the “n-word”, terrorists, rapists, dog eaters, etc. They said it’s so wrong to date anyone who is not white. -_-

I obviously prioritise my own life over what parents say. But I don’t want to hide him anymore, from them. And I’m clueless about how to proceed with this.

My bf suggested that I could tell the lesser racist one of them that he is just a friend, and then later on tell them that we started dating. Tbh that’s kinda how we started.

Could y’all please suggest more ideas, or what else can be done about it? Thanks.

Update: my parents initially made a strange face when I told them about him, but once they talked with him, they liked him. And think he’s a gentleman. Yay!