I am from From Indian subcontinent but spent the majority of my life I spent in USA. I recent asked a girl out. She is a Latina.

We met in a club. I was with my two Bengali friends and she with her two Latina female friends. So each of us was talking to a girl. I was able to hit it off with the girl I asked out by taking her number and Instagram but my two friends weren’t able to because one of them was forcibly kissing her friend and the other friend was touching her inappropriately.

After watching my two friends blew off their chances I thought the girl would not talk to me and I felt really bad for her thinking what kind of people are we after her friends got mistreated.

I decided to accept the fact it wouldn’t work out and not text her. But the next day, when I woke up I saw her text me which was pretty surprising to me. We talked on the text and called each other at night and asked her out again and she said yes. And I have been talking with her a lot and it feels like we clicked and have so much in common.

I have another circle of close friends which is composed of people from different ethnicities/race, well mostly Latinos. When I told them, they were really happy and giving me advices on where I should take her to eat and places to visit. Even poking fun at me.

But when I told my desi friends and acquaintances they were against me. Saying having a girlfriend is waste of time and she is from a different ethnicity and she will ruin your life. I will never be happy and stuff, Also just have sex with her and leave her. She will not be a housewife material. Advising not go on that date. The only thing they can think it’s it’s better to go to my home country and find a wife my parents will arrange who can cook and clean because she doesn’t have the “American” mentality.

Mind you some of them go to nightclubs every weekend to go hit it off with girls and they always get rejected. They sent a lot of money there by buying ticket and buying drinks for the ladies.

How should I get my desi friends to support me?

Thank you for reading!