hi sorry for this being too long. Im 25 white woman and my husband a 28 black guy, recently we have been through so much and not because of us, but because of people around. here it is what happened a couple days ago, besides the weekly job, my husband is also dj, he was invited to play in a party, usually I go in all of his shows when I’m available, because I’m also his fan and I love to see him playing. We feel good being together and in this case this wouldn’t be different. When we get there the party was almost 90% black, people were there celebrating the culture etc. As always, I stay on the side of the stage just with myself listening to the music and waiting on him to finalize his set. Then, out of nothing a women (trans/lightskin) came to me and said that I could not be in that space because this was a quilombo party and if I wanted to stay, I should move backwards on the stage. I just explained that I was only in that position because my husband was the one playing and she could be free to dance in that area as well. Then she never stopped talking until I move a little bit back, while that, a guy (black m) in front of me was pissed with the situation not because of me, but because he was trying to chill out and the situation was really stressful, he started to screen things like gooo dj play another one, the girl started to scream at him and he didn’t care. Suddenly this girl threw a bottle of water in my face and in this guys face (ps here: after the moment I moved back, I didn’t opened my mouth to speak). Than this girl and the guy started to fight. I just moved myself a little bit back and I got static with that situation. I left the party after the set and I didn’t said a word. I’m still processing what happened. I never felt so humiliated for doing nothing This is not the first time that people try to do things against us. Another day one girl just took my husband aside in a party and told him to not accept my crumbs. Like wtf is really happening to the world, I love this guy more than my life and I do everything for him, from cooking to wash his clothes and supporting him on paying his university. I know that people will never see this but why they cannot see the way I’m super careful and lovely, that I’m with him because I truly love him. Why is it so hard to respect that. When this happens he always feel so frustrated and is always keep saying sorry to me but I don’t want this to happen anymore is not his fault, I don’t want to feel bad and don’t want him to feel either. I’m super tired of being humiliated publicly by people that doesn’t understand our dynamic and don’t have the context on how we are happy and live well together. I really want him to be the father of my babies sooner but I don’t want to pass through this situation with the kids. Really the only thing I want is the possibility to love in peace. You don’t have an idea on how painful it is to feel that loving someone is wrong. It has been 3 years that I feel this incondicional love and we live together but the things just seen to be ok when we are at our house and rounded by our friends. The external world don’t seen to be happy with our happiness and we understand that but it passed the psychical barrier and I’m feeling so humiliated, I don’t even know how to react.