Title sums it up. I do live with my parents, but pay for all my bills/rent/car and all my living expenses. However, my mother, has to know what is going on with me at all times. If I drive to work, she wants a text to know I made it safe. If I go get dinner with a friend, she wants a text. If it takes me longer to get somewhere than expected, she’ll start sending texts asking, “traffic bad? Everything okay?”.

I feel smothered to the max.

Here’s my current dilemma: I have a weekend trip planned with my girlfriend—this weekend—and haven’t told my parents. I know there’s going to be backlash because being alone with a girl is bad! But I want to tell her since I’ll be gone for three days. I guess I’m not sure how to approach it. She’s going to ask a million questions, get frantic and then blow up my phone the entire time I’m gone.

How do I transition from “asking” for permission to just doing what I want?