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Venting but advice is welcome. My (34F) husband (37M) adopted a puppy many years ago who had a lot of behavioral problems. He mostly avoided people when stressed and was very sweet around both of us, though. As the dog began to grow very old, he started showing some signs of dementia that caused him to uncharacteristically growl at us, bite, and seek lots of alone time.
My husband took the dog to a couple of different vets and struggled for a long time over what to do about him as his confusion and aggression got worse and worse over the course of about a year and a half. He had started biting in his sleep, and heād drawn blood biting my husband several times over only a few months. We ended up having a vet over to put him to sleep a few months after we got engagedābefore Iād moved in.
My SIL was very possessive of my husbandās dog bc she was there when he first adopted him. Turns out SIL has been telling people that my husband had to put the dog down because of me. She very loudly told the entire family over Memorial Weekend that it didnāt matter when the dog bit her or my husband, but that it was too much for me to deal with, so the dog had to be put down. Husband was fetching food from the kitchen and didnāt hear this.
SIL is an irritating person, and I complain about her antics to my friends (and sometimes my husband too, as he does understand how she can be even though theyāre close), but plainly lying like this is worse than her usual annoying, self-centered, entitled behavior. Husband has said he will correct her if she repeats her story about the dog again. My best friend is concerned that SIL is on a mean girl long-term smear campaign against me, and I donāt really know what to do here. She lives very close by, so itās difficult to avoid her. This is just the latest incident of many where sheās been a pain in the ass to me, and itās hard to be in this space where nothing she does is egregious enough to warrant cutting her out of my life, so she just continues to be a perpetual irritant I have to deal with.
Oh no. No no no. Your husband needs to address this comment. He needs to take care of her horrible behavior before itās too late. In laws like this and who live very close can strain a marriage. Is there a way you could cut off some contact with her? How often do you and hubby have to see her? Is she the type that just shows up? If so, screw all of that! It does sound like a smear campaign, especially since you say sheās mean and passive aggressive to you. Passive aggressive people usually are the ones talking shit behind your back. If sheās making comments to you and around you, imagine what sheās saying behind your back. Goodness she sounds awful. The lying is really bad and is a way to pitch people against youā¦ Your husband needs to have a talk with her!
Ew, wtf! She sounds terrible. āLetās tell people that my SIL kicked the dog out without mentioning allergies because thatās how Iāll get everyone to hate her.āšThatās so mean.
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She sounds insufferable. What a shame that sheās been successful in pitting people against you. Her crying āpoor meā because she hasnāt met your son was definitely a game. She probably knew youād reach out and she knew sheād decline. She was doing it to make you look bad. Bitch.
Let her live in her misery. Sending you good vibes!