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This post is mainly to vent, but please share your stories with me if you can relate.
I’m so sick of my SIL. We were over there the other day and she was venting to me and MIL about her cat. She was trying to decide if they should get another cat because she always grew up with two cats and she wants the same for her kids.
So she’s going back and forth on two ideas. Get another cat and stress out her current cat(current cat can be aggressive to other cats), or don’t get the second cat and regret her kids not growing up with two of them like she did. She was weighing out her options. Talking to us and saying how it’s a tough decision to make. I was listening and it seemed like she wanted advice because she kept going on. “Do I do this, or that? Idk. If I do this, then X will happen, but if I do option B, then Y will happen….”
So after she kept talking about her kids not growing up with two cats, I said to her “just get the second cat.” I said it in a nice way and was just offering advice because it seemed like that’s what she wanted. Apparently, she just wanted to hear herself talk because her response was a really mean “Well, it’s easy for you to say! You’re not the one who is going to deal with an angry cat pissing all over the place.”
LOL. I was floored …..?? I thought she was venting and asking for opinions like a normal person. Guess she just wanted to hear herself talk??? And us sit there? I wasn’t even trying to be mean. Just gave an opinion. If she doesn’t want advice or opinions, why talk about it and ask a question out loud saying “what should I do??”
From now on, I’ll let her talk. She has always been narcissistic, but something like this hasn’t happened before. I’m grey rocking in these situations that’s it. She can hear herself blab I don’t care anymore lol.
You are so accurate. This is how I think about her and I’ve also made these connections so I appreciate your comment because it validates what I’ve been thinking.
They had a dog previously who she couldn’t stand. The dog was her husband’s and married into the family. She would always talk badly about the dog and how annoying the dog was, but once the dog died, the social media posts were flowing. She wanted attention and sympathy. She couldn’t stand that dog! That was interesting to witness. She also told me when the dog passed that it was sad because “he’s been around for so long and my kids were born with him in the house, and he was around at the old house where so many memories were made.” Just the way she talks is very telling. It didn’t seem like it was about missing the dog that had passed, instead about losing something that had a connection to her life memories and the lives of her kids. I never witnessed her loving the dog while it was alive.
I’m not sure! Maybe it wasn’t the response she wanted, however, after I walked away, I overheard her say to MIL that she’s probably going to get the second cat lol. It seemed like the response she wanted while she was talking about it, too…. I think she just wanted to hear herself talk 😬 idk they’re complicated people lol
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I agree, and I only suggested it because it seemed like that was the response she wanted and it seemed like she was leaning more towards it. Oh, that’s exactly the type of person she is 😅