I’m not sure why I am posting this, maybe because I’m just very disappointed. My brother got married about a year ago after dating his wife for a little under a year, and at first I really really liked her because she comes across as nice, but slowly as time went by she seems like an insincere person, but just very good at being nice and social. She comes from a higher class and she’s different from us in quite a few ways which I don’t mind this part, but it’s just this feeling that she’s not genuine.

Each family dinner we have she talks the most and my mom gives her a lot of attention, because they say she has some OCD and she gets really insecure and thinks she’s not loved enough by us(even though we have only been kind to her and showered her with compliments ). When she was a new in law I didn’t mind this, I think a new in law should be praised and adored as they are new to the family. But it’s like this everytime where my family has to cater to her, and now that I’m moved out of the house I really just want some personable time with my family.

But each family dinner is her talking most of the time about things me and my sister can’t relate to. I just sit there quietly most of the time and try to join in but it doesn’t really work out. She will ask me a question randomly here and there but it seems like she does it just to do it, because if something happens in the background she completely forgets I’m even talking. It seems like every act of kindness is just to appear nice to the family. My brother doesn’t seem to care either, but it used to be different before.

I really felt bummed out today because I told my mom I’d come over and help her make some food for dinner tonight , and my mom invited them. It was the same thing. I’m present but don’t feel there. And I don’t feel like I can be myself.

Anyways, is there any advice here? Or I just deal with it? I’m tired of it .

Thanks