I often find myself get attracted to INFJ's. I don't know why. I am unaware that I get drawn to them always. When I found out the type of the person I like, it's always INFJ or sometimes ISFJ. Mostly introverts. I am an ambivert tho.

I need help from INFJ's out there. Especially those who have partners now, or had one before. But anyone is very welcome to give their opinions of course.

I fell for this INFJ woman. And we got this genuine connection. It's been more than 4 months. And she literally admitted it to me that she likes me too. A few times. But there were times I might be pressuring her about relationships and stuff. We openly talked about it. And I understand her. I can wait and be slow. I know that INFJ needs very slow pace. They have to consider a lot of thinking about things before diving into it. I am sorry, you can correct me from my mistakes in this post.

The problem is, there are lot of times like she's pushing me away. Not literally. And not directly. Sometimes she's too cold. And will be posting or sharing something in her ig story where it feels like she doesn't like someone. Mostly post of other people that she just shares but it feels like it has a meaning and a very sad one.

But there is also a time that she literally pushed me away and said politely and respectfully and gently, that I should stop waiting for her or her feelings and so on. Then she will post again things that will deliver message to me that he doesn't want to do that or anything I AM REALLY CONFUSED.

I know INFJ are confused with themselves as well. But any mature advice about how can I handle it?

I can feel it that there are things she just want to avoid, one is she is confused with her feelings, I might be coming off too fast, two is maybe she doesn't want me to get involved with something or she doesn't want me to get hurt or what because she is unsure of what she can and can't do. I REALLY DON'T KNOW. I am not mad or something. I just really need help.

I feel that she still like me. And she admitted that there are no other person she talks with the way we talk, the way I understand her. She told me that. She never lied to me. Except for telling me she's okay even she isn't. We really had a great connection. She also told me once that I made her walls down gradually. She always had those walls to everyone. But she learned to open up to me slowly.

After I stopped bothering her, a month has passed. There was this time, unexpectedly, we had another encounter on chat. (By the way, most of our connection happens online because we kinda far from each other. But before we had a few meetups. She is too shy). Then we easily get our connection back and it feels like nothing happened. Then I heard from her that she's not been okay those 4 weeks that passed. And that was a long conversation. And she really thanked me because there are no other person she can talk with the way we talk. The next morning she said that she's been better than those past few weeks. And she told me I am his safe place.

TL;DR How would I know if I should still continue pursuing her and just be patient or I should stop. Sometimes I want to stop but my care for her thinking that no one can understand her like I do and no one knows if she's not okay, it keeps me staying on her side even just hiding from the dark or from her back.