As I’ve grown older, I notice in myself (and in my two close gfs who are also INFJs), that we are better able to hold nuance or occupy the space between darkness and light. As I notice more of the gray areas in life, I can accept them peacefully without needing to change them — It just is. I liken the feeling to being neither Jedi nor Sith, but some order that sits perfectly in between -- Able to step into and radiate light, but also able to converse and dance with darkness without being changed by it. I can “walk” between the two easily — Like on the daily I’m such a genuine, kind, and generous person, but if I dug deep enough I could be a megalomaniac. It’s a beautiful and strange realization that I have both in me, but I admit it feels frustrating because I wish I wasn’t so complex. I wish I was easier to understand.

P.S. All of the above could be MBTI crap, and I’m just another old fogey who has come to acceptance of herself and is happy to not give af what others think anymore. 😅