I have been thinking about this. And this ties into one of the problem many INFJs face I think, that is to find a suitable partner.

So, what I feel sometimes is that I don't understand a lot of couples. I feel that many couples are together only because they just want to be in a relationship and so they just find essentially whatever they can get and do not necessarily like their partners or enjoy the relationship like I would.

As someone who has trouble finding someone, I get confused with which of 2 possibilities are true. Either I am right about their relationship and I am looking for something more profound. Or I am an over-expecting fantasy-dwelling fool who doesn't understand real relationships.

What do you guys think?

PS: Also as full disclosure, I think I am also perhaps a bit under confident btw. I think that plays some role in my dating life.