I often think I am perceived wrong when I am in social situations - people usually think I am either flirting with them or completely uninterested in them or just plain cold. This is because most of the time when i start to talk to someone for the first time socially whether it’s at a function, public place, or a new client at work I tend to ask personal and deep questions. Which is outside the norm in the United States. I will disengage in conversation if it is small talk like “hi how are ya” “good how are you?”.

Unfortunately and somewhat fortunately, I love to hear people’s stories in depth or their most important or life altering experiences so that I can possibly try to connect to them or feel what they felt when they experienced that event. This is because I have always been an empathetic person and I use my empathy to understand why someone is the way they are. So this can come off as creepy or flirtatious to others.

Any other INFJs experience this? I’d love to hear your opinions on this.