Hi all,

I’m a 25 year old male INFJ based in New York. I’ve found that I have a consistent desire for sexual intimacy without having an emotional connection to the person. I can’t seem to put my finger on why this may be the case. I’m assuming that it’s related to a 3-year-long situationship that ended in 2020, because since then I’ve not reeaaally been emotionally attached to anyone.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Should I be feeling bad about the sexual desires that I have? Should I be acting on them?

I’ve also noticed that I tend to be intimate with people that aren’t in my close circle - friends, colleagues etc and I keep my escapades as a secret from my friends. I guess this sort of reiterates the extent to which I don’t want to have a personal connection with the person that I’m sleeping with because I almost want to keep them separate from the rest of my life.

Any insights/advice would be truly appreciated.