My coworker was 22 weeks pregnant with identical twins who shared a placenta. Before this pregnancy she was having a lot of issues conceiving including multiple miscarriages. She went in for her anatomical ultrasound and found out one of the twins had died. Apparently they had TRAPS syndrome and it simply stopped developing.

This is made more complicated by the fact that I have a 9 month old baby that I currently bring with me to work daily (it's a family business with a few non-related employees, my boss is my MIL). I am also currently 3 months pregnant with my second child and am starting to show pretty obviously.

What can I possibly do to make this horrible time in her life easier on her? Should I get my mom to come down and take the baby for a while during the day? Should I avoid her? Should I tell her that I'm sorry? Should I go on like nothing happened?

I've really never spent much time around grieving people, and when I have they were usually grieving the loss of an adult and not a child. I just don't want to add more insult to injury be being around.

Last winter she had a miscarriage and more or less avoided me for two months after the fact because I had my baby with me. Which is totally understandable, I just don't want to cause anyone more pain than they are already in.