Cuckold and Hotwife fantasies are common with men in high power / high stress / alpha roles in their day to day life. Cuckolding at its simplest is a power exchange where you’re giving control over to other parties. For me personally, it feels GOOD to do that. It’s taking all that masculine mantle off and getting down to very simple primal urges. It’s having your partner enjoy sex for the sake of sex, and there’s no amount of posturing or explaining away that you can do in the moment to change that.

In hotwifing the common theme is that you’re a man with a high value woman and you want to show that off. In a sense it’s a power play in and of itself because you’re letting other men enjoy temporarily what you can enjoy all the time. It’s showing off your abundance. Oh, you don’t have access to regular Pussy? Here’s mine, I’m so well taken care of I can afford to share.

It’s you allowing your partner to enjoy the absolute best of the best because you’re secure in that. It’s like taking her to a fancy hotel or out to an extravagant meal. Here baby, have the best of the best. Have amazing sexual experiences nobody else can have because of societal norms. I’m secure in who I am and I’m allowing that.

Cuckolding is a bit kinkier, and while I enjoy both I enjoy the cuck fantasies a bit more. You’re allowing yourself to let down your masculine guard and enjoy pure sexual excitement and pleasure. In your gut you know that you can’t make yourself bigger or be able to fuck better, but you are comfortable letting her enjoy that while you get off on the power exchange element of not being in control anymore.

Typically bulls are men who are very sexually capable, but they lack the provider instinct and the ability to remain sexually monogamous. It’s the bad boys that all the girls wanted to fuck in high school before they learned they would leave them high and dry.

Another big part of it for me is just experiencing her sexually liberated. Hearing her talk about how good a big cock feels, and letting herself cut loose to enjoy that. I also enjoy the bull being in charge of both participating parties and being “in charge” sexually of the couple. That’s incredibly hot, and allows us to play with a power dynamic we don’t often experience in our day to day lives.

I’ve always said cuckolding is a game a couples play, and the most successful take the box out from under the bed from time to time, play with their “toys” until they are sated, then safely store the box away until next time.

A good wife will understand this and respect you for being open minded. She’ll also be grateful that she’s getting the best of both worlds— a provider who can raise a family, and also the ability to experience face melting sex.

It’s not for everyone, but for those who get it, it’s a helluva ride. It’s been described as the thinking mans BDSM because it strokes those same power exchange neurons but in a completely different way.

I’ve also found that anecdotally it makes a couple much more communicative, much more honest with each other, and it instills a crazy amount of sexual confidence in the wife.