TLDR: "Babe, two gifts per year is not that big of an ask. I get that you hate Christmas (and honestly so do I) but it's still a fun excuse to show our love in a way that's a little different than usual. It doesn't have to be a several month affair, and it doesn't have to be a huge deal or super expensive. I just want you to acknowledge that sometimes it's nice for me to own something that makes me think of you and how much you love me."

Listen, I hate Christmas because it's so laden with expectations and my family is huge and super ultra conservative Christian and it's difficult for me to be around them and Christmas music fucking sucks. Gift giving is not one of my primary love languages and I don't have a lot of money. Up until recently, it's been really difficult for me to get time off to celebrate and my partner still has to deal with the repercussions of asking Christmastime off. It's such an ordeal for everyone to find the time and plan a get together and buy gifts and dress nice and act more polite than usual and contribute to whatever unnecessary event my mom has dreamed up. Everything would be way easier and more peaceful if Christmas just didn't exist.

BUT that doesn't mean I can't enjoy lying under a tree to look at the lights while listening to the Beatles. It doesn't mean I'm not stoked when I find the perfect gift for my little sister and I get to see her face when she opens it. It doesn't mean I hate all the food and treats and time off. It doesn't mean I don't want to drink overly decadent hot cocoa by the fire with a book. I do want to celebrate it, I just don't want it to be the central focus of everyone's lives for several months. I'm pretty easy to buy for, I love surprises, and presents do make me feel loved, especially when they're infrequent yet meaningful. When my life partner is the only one who refuses to give me a gift, I mean just- what the fuck? I just want to scream "IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT CHRISTMAS".

Get your girlfriends and wives a godamn gift, ESPECIALLY if she likes Christmas.