I realIzed that for people who aren't hypersexual, they tend to be turned off by default but then be turned on by an external factor. We tend to be turned on by default (at least in a hypersexual state) and then get turned off by an external factor. I don't think this is universal especially since hypersexuality varies for a lot of people, but I think it applies to a lot of us when I think back to the conversations I've had with others. I didn't realize it because unlike a lot of people who are hypersexual conditionally (Ex: due to BPD or bipolar disorder), I am like this always.

If I am not talking to anyone, I am still turned on and in the mood. I just happen to be extremely picky as far as personality goes. Even though I'm suffering a lot daily, I am not (that) desperate and I am stubborn. It's like having a history of opioid addiction so you go through the excruciating pain due to resorting to weaker meds because you REALLY don't want to harm yourself in worse ways.

Here's the thing that blew my mind. When I noted that I mostly swipe left on most dating apps, but am still mind numbingly horny, it struck me that people swipe left because they are NOT turned on rather than being turned off. They are not down to sleep with someone until they are turned on. I am down to sleep with someone until I am turned off. When I meet someone attractive to me, I am just more turned on. Most people when they are turned off are not horny anymore and have to be turned on to get it back. When I am turned off, I am still horny; I simply just don't want to sleep with that person.

Tl;dr: For most people, it's "Step 1. Be attractive. Step 2. Don't be unattractive". For me and possibly many other hypersexual people, it's "Don't be unattractive". It's just very easy for someone to be unattractive to me.