Hello terrors!

Earlier this week, I was beating up my lovely partner in the consensual manner us kinky folk do. We were on the bed together. She was not restrained, but I did have hold of her. I momentarily let go, and she began scrabbling backwards to get away from me.

I should add that whilst in normal life my partner is wonderfully chatty, capable of thought-provoking discussion, and confident in her sense of humour, it takes only the merest suggestion of something sexual for her to clam up like a clammy thing, look away and become uncommunicative. These are all behaviours I enjoy. Sometimes, it means I have to beat her that little bit more just to elicit the particular response I require.

This is the first time she, or anyone for that matter, has tried to 'run away' from me whilst we were doing our thing. "Where the fuck are you going?" I asked, laughing. I grabbed her by the ankle, and dragged her back towards me.

[I chose to post this in this subreddit, as there is such a large MESM (mental / emotional sadomasochism) element to our relationship. Also, because I believe - in a dynamic such as ours which is built on trust, but based around fear and abuse - if your partner is trying to run away, you probably have them exactly where you want them.]

I know there are a few other people here with similar dynamics. I thought I'd make the post and see if any of this resonates. I'd love to hear your thoughts and similar experiences.