So over the years at the beginning of the scene a Mistress will usually say "Strip down to (whatever, varies) and fold your clothes and stack your clothes neatly" or something to that effect. And I understand that they're being respectful of my things and the difference between regular, 'real world' me versus the scene /session me but this has often bothered me a bit because when it happens I feel like I'm just a lowly s type and they shouldn't bother or care about my clothes or how neat they remain, unless I'm going someplace important afterward, like to my job or something.

Now, just to clear things up and maybe avoid some of the less important bits of the discussion, as I recall these were all pay or one off scenes, not in an ongoing dynamic where I probably WOULD eventually bring it up plus it sort of built up over time before I even figured out what was annoying me about the moment. And in one ongoing dynamic I have indeed just put my clothes quickly in a pile to get on with getting into whatever outfit was requested of me or to get on with the scene so I sort of humiliated myself.

I've been meaning to post this for awhile and the thread I responded to earlier this week got me to finally do it today. In that one I mentioned that I also really like it when the D type wipes their hands or feet or footwear off on me, sometimes at the end of the scene. Even if their feet or footwear aren't really dirty treating me that way has a strong psychological effect which also marks me as I go back into the real world, especially if they WERE dirty, though again you would need to be careful about doing this right before something that really matters.

So my first question is does anyone else ever desire or negotiate or do this sort of shifting of the usual goal posts of how things 'should' normally work in a respectful kink scene?

And a somewhat related question that may not deal with the scene norms as much, does anyone else want or enjoy the deliberate disrespect of things that belong to the sub? If so, are there limits on that or have you ever run into any once it was too late to establish them? I sat in on an online class on Emotional Domination a few months ago and two of the things the instructor mentioned she has done, or perhaps thought of doing, it's been awhile, was destroying someone's photos or torturing or destroying their stuffed animals right in front of them, which to me sounds both brilliant and horrific.