Note: - Shallow = Mababaw in Filipino language - Shallow in this situation means trivial and/or unimportant - examples/hypothetical situations: 1) I got upset that my girl friend was so focused on her phone while she was with me. I got hurt but she thinks I was too shallow to get hurt over that reason.; 2) My mother kept telling me to study hard instead of getting anxious at school. I got hurt because I was studying really hard but I sometimes have panic attacks before going to school, thus, I cannot attend classes sometimes. But for them, they were just being caring and my reason for being hurt was just too shallow for them.

I have always been a hypersensitive person and others don't like it. I was always told ever since I was a kid that I am too sensitive - I am too shallow for others. Eventually, I learned that no one would like to see me cry or get hurt over 'shallow things'. Thus, I immediately learned to keep everything to myself. When I am hurt, I would just get silent; I would laugh and smile, pretending that I am truly fine. But my family eventually caught up with me. They realized that I was hurt. Again, I was told that I am too sensitive. My siblings and even parents make fun of me sometimes, telling me that I am too sensitive. There was nothing else I could do anymore aside from cry everything behind curtains. At a very young age, I knew that I could only survive by not expecting others to understand me, therefore keeping everything within. I eventually had depression and until now, at the age of 21, I am still taking antidepressants.

The thing is, I learned that I should tell others how I feel; I learned to speak up for myself. It took me so much time before I arrived at where I am now. But the problem is, others still think I am too shallow for being an HSP, my girlfriend included.

We've been together for almost 21 months now. I thought she fully understood me but lately, I have been hurting because she thinks that the reasons why I am getting upset sometimes are too shallow. She can't wrap her head around it. She tells me that she is doing her best to understand me but she is so tired of it. Whenever we have disagreements because I got upset, she would always ask for time to rest. I usually give it to her but I get so anxious sometimes. So instead of immediately talking about our problems, we would talk about it the morning after that night.

I am hurt because I thought that she is the only one who fully understands me. But she also thinks I am shallow as well.

What should I do? I don't want us to separate over that. Can I change? Or how can I communicate it better with her in order for her to empathize with me?