I had a friend who I worked with and became close with over the past 4 years. Whenever there was an issue at work I helped her and always had her back when people ganged up on her. I tried to be the peacemaker at work because it just made work easier. Anyway fast forward to after moving away (out of state) and not seeing each other all the time she constantly asked to go on a trip together and bring our SO. Great we finally made the plans and when the time came I found out day of my friend and her husband both brought on each another friend. Ok a little weird idk much about it but let it slide & tried to go with the flow the more the merrier. Well to sum up the rest of the trip, my husband and I felt like we were 3rd wheeling their trip. The last straw was when she “forgot” I asked her to meet us for dinner. I was so devastated & felt like she didn’t care. I thought of all the times I sacrificed my energy and time helping her at work and sticking up for her & now I was treated like crap. I told her how I felt and she said she hopes it wouldn’t ruin our friendship but it did… she recently reached out to me but I have yet to respond. I don’t plan on responding but I feel like the damage has been done. It’s hard for me to try and be friends with someone like that again. It also kind of stresses me out not responding to her too. I’m trying to not be a people pleaser anymore I find it never really working out. Have you guys had a similar experience with a friend you thought was an actual friend but found out they really weren’t?