I'm not going to go into specifics right now because I think there's at least some chance that I'd get the same shitty treatment again, but I'll just talk about it vaguely...

I've recently gone through a break-up. And I asked on Reddit and then another forum for some advice on a particular thing.

And what I felt like was basically dismissed as "Oh, you're just saying that cuz you love her" or "Oh, you just need time to heal." But I knew that wasn't true. So I tried to explain it in a different way that I hoped FINALLY would get across that it wasn't that. I also specifically added the note that I wasn't looking for advice like "You just need time" or whatever.

Now, I naively thought that I might actually get the advice I was looking for this way. Instead I got mostly 2 kinds of reactions: People still giving the same advice I specifically requested not to give and people being mean to me for no freaking reason.

And I'm just so freaking tired of it. I'm so tired of being invalidated and dimissed regardless of which way I try to talk about it. I'm tired of people being mean to me for no reason and trying to make me feel even worse despite the fact that I'm already in a severe depression. I'm so tired of this stuff.

You know, when I entered my current depression a few months ago and started struggling with my body dysmorphia again I found a sub called r/amiugly. And I decided I would join it and from then on I would try to inspire the confidence in people that I've never had. You know, I've felt terrible about how I look for over a decade. So I wanted to reassure people and make them feel better about how they look. So since then I've specifically gone out of my way to do that. I never lie, but I always try to be encouraging and kind.

And yet when I need advice... I get people invalidating and being mean to me. Trying to push me even deeper into my depression and not giving me the advice I desperately need.

I'm just so tired of it.