I am selfish. I admit it.

I focus on myself first and think about the things I want.

You too, eh?

I get it has a negative vibe and no one wants to be called ‘selfish’. Even the dictionary starts off by admonishing it’s “concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself”.

But we’re not talking about that kind of selfish. Short term & shallow minded.

We’re talking about radical selfishness.

We’re talking about:

• putting yourself first
• pursuing your dreams
• giving back

It means you have time for yourself and don’t feel guilty about it.

Time to meditate. To learn. To workout. To work on personal projects.

To say ‘no’.

We’re talking about having our shit together; idle time doesn’t mean you’re not productive.

"Time you enjoy wasting was not wasted" - John Lennon

If you’re hearing what I’m saying, I can give you a small ritual you can use to start:

Choose one important thing, completely unrelated to what’s urgent, and decide on three small steps you’ll take towards it in the next 3 days. 7 days. 21 days.

If you really wanna lock it in and catalyze your own growth, create a group with this common goal.

Invite family, friends, and colleagues and keep each other accountable.

There’s strength in numbers, after all. Peer pressure too.

There are endless books, videos, and podcasts about building habits... but strip away the fat and the formula is always the same:

Small Milestones Small Victories Support = Success

We grow when we’re honest about what makes us happy and make time to pursue those things.

Never apologize for taking time for what’s important, and do those things without compromise. Don’t let anyone tell you that focusing on yourself or your needs over someone else’s is a negative trait. It’s not.

Oh, and if you don’t know who to start an accountability group with, why not Zoidberg?

I mean me. PM me. Is wut I du.

Much love,

Dani

P.S. I like the analogy of a golden castle built in a slum. If you’re rich and powerful, but you can’t leave your house without encountering an abhorrent and damaged reality, have you built a castle or a cage? The radically selfish man raises the entire world around him, so he may roam it as he pleases and not find himself facing a reality of collective failure.