The wife and I have been exploring the lifestyle on and off for the last several years. We had a mixed experience in 2020 that really pushed her to take some time to think about how she wants to pursue this. After some time, she brought it up to me and mentioned she would enjoy meeting someone, preferably together, to see where things go.

We have kids, all young and we have a full activity schedule between the three of them and my work travel. We finally arranged a babysitter for an overnight and booked a hotel in the nearest city for a night out. We looked for friends online who may be out but we struck out and decided to see where the night took us.

She finds most of the swinger clubs to be a mix of too many extremes, she doesn’t care what you do in bed but she’s not comfortable with everything, so we don’t enjoy them.

But we did start the night with dinner and a round of tequila shots to loosen up. We opted for a local cigar bar that we’ve visited when we lived in town and always found the people watching to be a lot of fun.

After a few more drinks it was time for a game…

She asked me to pick out the woman in the bar I’d most like to fuck, her not being an option. There was a waitress, big tits, round ass, and long blonde hair that caught both of our attention. We joked about how to approach her and then she blurted out there were a few guys she would fuck. I asked the same, which one?

There was a particularly attractive black guy sitting at a table behind us, long dreads, fit, there with same buddies who kept making eyes with her. She was loving it, and told me it was him that she would want. I rubbed her thigh and pushed up her dress to expose it to him, he took notice.

A short time later he meandered to the bathroom, and I decided it was my chance to let him know she was game if he wanted to see where things went. He chuckled, and walked out of the bathroom and I took a few minutes to chat with the attendant and grab a candy before I headed back.

Sure enough, there he was, hand on her thigh, flirting with her as I walked back to the table. She was smiling and laughing, and then he moved on as I approached. They passed glances the rest of the night but he never came back or made another move. But that was it, she was in the mood.

She asked if I wanted to go dancing and if we could head to another spot. I was game, and so off we went.

It was disappointing for a Friday how slow the city, but two clubs later and we had found a bit of a crowd. I told her it was time for another game and she was wanted to know what it was. I explained the “bar game” and she was off before I could finish.

First to the bar and then to the dance floor, she was on the prowl for whomever was showing interest and able to keep up with her.

A few approached, a few attempted, but only two really put in the effort to really dance with her. First with space, and then as she smiled and flirted, they would move closer, until they were body to body and touching each other. The first guy, a heavier set Mexican guy, didn’t push her too much and noticed her and I making eye contact before he moved on. But the second, a young African with a deep accent was all over her. Rubbing her body up and down as they moved, she reached back and grabbed the back of his head to whisper something in his ear, he smirked, smack her ass and walked over to his buddy at the bar where I was standing.

She saw us close together and decided to wrap up the night with a show, slowly walking past us, hiking up her skirt, bending over and slapping her ass.

She was off to the coat check and we were back in an Uber shortly after. All over each other on the way, and barely getting into our hotel room as she told me what she imagined they would have done to her if we brought him back. She’s building her confidence, a few more date nights and she’s eager to fulfill this fantasy together.