I figure this post may get removed but so be it. This needs to be said! I love this subreddit because I love men that embrace women comfortable in their sexuality. But, as a fly on the wall here, I see an incredible number of posts asking how to get women to open up more about their wild and sexy pasts.

The truth is, put the hotpast aspect aside. You need to ensure your entire relationship is a safe space for her to communicate openly about everything. A judgement free zone. As example… Are you quick to be critical of how she spends money? Or are you the type to talk crap about others behind their backs with her? She may believe you do the same when she’s not around.

Long story short boys… you’re asking her to be brutally candid about her most intimate history. Start by ensuring she feels incredibly safe and comfortable in all other aspects of your life. Create an atmosphere of openness, acceptance, positivity, encouragement, etc.

Then give it time. Make sex more playful. And you might just get what you want.