I love my wife more than anything. We've been together 8 years. We do however have very different pasts. I was only with one other person before her. Long term relationship. She's tge 2nd person I've had sex with. Her, on the other hand, has a wild past. Lots of parties and guys and casual sex. Some pretty wild stories have slipped out here and there about her past experiences. My question is this...

How do you all learn to be ok and even turned on by your partners past? I've struggled with insecurities and let my imagination go a little too wild at times I think and I guess it's just hard for me at times to think about how many guys she's had and tge stuff she's done. I don't shame her or bring it up. I love her and i get it's her past but I also know some of these guys today and have ran into them with her. It brings up those insecurities sometimes in my head.

Was there anything you all did to help switch your perspectives or have you always just magicallybedn into it? Thank you in advance. Go easy on the newbie.