Not sure if there is anyone else on here experiencing what I am experiencing but I have to search to satisfy my curiosity, not because misery enjoys company but because I am very curious to see if what is happening in my marriage is normal or not.

My wife and I have sex maybe once a quarter.....MAYBE. We have gone several months without sex and she seems perfectly ok with that.

My wife and I rarely kiss, like the make out type of kissing that you used to enjoy when you were in High School or first started dating...not sure why (I am sure that passion and kissing diminishes over the years but mine is none existent).....I do get a smooch goodbye every morning which is more like a PECK on the cheek or lips but nothing to get me all excited. It feels like she is just giving me a peck in the event I do not make it home then she can say she at least kissed me goodbye!

When we do have sex.....it is routine....same old stuff. No sparks....she gets off and goes to sleep.....which is what I thought the MALE is supposed to do...lol

I have tried to bring in toys, mix it up, go on date nights and offer various venues but she declines...she says she likes it the way it is and that I am just overly sex crazed?

I disagree....I am a normal human that enjoys having sex. I want affection and I want to be wanted sexually...no reason why I should not be wanted sexually....I am fun in bed...I love to please a woman. I am easy on the eyes, I work out...I floss....., I feel I have about 20-25 years of good sex left in me, but at this rate I am going to become a fricking monk. It's ridiculous.

Is it wrong to want sex once a week? Is it wrong to love sex?
I enjoy it...I enjoy a woman's body.....every inch of it. I am passionate and enjoy kissing.

I truly feel we are like two ships passing one another down the hall as I walk to one side of the home and she walks to another. There has to be more.

If any of this sounds familiar, believe me it's not fun to admit it can be our secret....let's chat and see if perhaps we can make a friendship out of this and enjoy the things we both enjoy doing. We owe it to one another right???

So in closing....THANKS FOR READING and PLEASE...let me know if this is normal or not...if so...I will deal with it....I will book guy trips to Vegas or Thailand more frequently (that's a joke), but my guess is this is NOT normal...even if it is I say...LET'S NOT BE NORMAL