As it says on the tin. I'm not one for policing how anyone identities in terms of what pronouns they want to use, how they want to dress and express themselves, etc. Life should have people be free to live their happiest and fullest life.

But there are fundamental differences in the experiences and needs in trans people with dysphoria (the ones who are, generally speaking but not 100% of a time due to medical gatekeeping) have the gender diagnosis of dysphoria. The individuals who deal with self loathing and hatred, the ones who feel medical intervention is needed for them to start living a functional life. The ones who rely on medical coverage to help them get hormones or surgery (not all do, yes, but many still do and rely on diagnostic criteria to get covered by insurance).

This is a rather different story than an individual where their experience with gender might be more about identity and exploration, more about societal expectations than a medical condition. And all of these things are VERY VALID. If it brings more comfort for these people to use a new name and pronoun, or to express themselves in new ways, then I always support them and their choices. But these individuals shouldn't feel invalidated because they choose to not go on hormones / surgery. Their comfort with their body is a different matter than their social presentation etc. And surgery and hormones are not without risk and thus should not be encouraged when not needed. It's a different experience than dysphoria based transition, and different experiences are good and should be respected.

Of course, I also advocate for informed consent if an individual in this latter category still wishes to have surgery to match their societal presentation. It's not unlike cosmetic procedures or surgeries individuals get to adjust their appearance. I know there are people who already look down on people who get plastic surgery because they are vain or whatever, but ultimately it's their body and life to live.

But I think a lot of the arguments of "truscum vs tucute" experiences are coming down to the fact that there isn't just one "reason" for transitioning, and by lumping these two rather unique reasons together for why someone may choose to present as a different gender is going to of course cause disarray and arguments. I don't think trans people without dysphoria should be ashamed of what they want and their decisions with respect to medical transition, and should still be respected and supported.

But I also think it's understandable to acknowledge that this is a different story and mechanism than those with dysphoria, and as such GID should not be removed as a condition because not all transgender people fit into that category. There should instead be terminology for trans people who suffer from a medical condition and elect to have medical treatment to address it, and another terminology for trans people who are addressing other facets of their life aside from GID/dysphoria who do not require the medical diagnosis and have a different path to their transition, so they are not left behind because they don't "fit in" with the medical GID diagnosis.

TL;DR We should should expand our perspective of individual experiences rather than trying to slap one catch all label of "transgender" to everyone.