In my opinion, a transitioning or transitioned person is someone who is seeking professional help to treat some level of gender dysphoria, even if that only presents as euphoria; and lives their lives as their chosen gender, even if that gender is non binary. I'm open to critiques on that but it's only my opinion. You don't need to pass to be a binary trans woman. A trans woman is just a woman, a non binary person isn't necessarily a woman, they're non binary. So by asserting that "binary trans women don't exist" you are also asserting that trans women are not women but somehow adjacent to women. I am not a non binary individual, I'm 100% a woman because that is how I identify, and I chose to transition to alleviate gender dysphoria.

I'm doing my best honestly to reach out to a community (the non binary community) that I feel like has good intentions but often undermines and offends me and trans people like me; and I'm trying to effectively convey my feelings in a respectful way.

Often I hear as a response to these feelings that the binary itself isn't real and that's the underlying logic behind there being no distinction. I feel this is wrong because a binary existence is the lived experience of the vast majority of humans. Social constructs are socially constructed but they are still materially real in the world we live in. As a trans person who is on medicaid, I rely on the government viewing gender transition as a legitimate medical need to survive. I feel like a lot of the discourse in the non binary community disregards this need through radical acceptance. That a trans person is valid without any medical intervention, that absolutely nothing needs to be done for you to be happy as your chosen gender. While this may be true for some people, I struggle to understand this experience as transgender, and bad actors have latched on to this radical language to argue, with success in the case of the UK and some states in the US, that transgender healthcare is not a legitimate medical need.

There does not seem to be a satisfying answer and I feel that until this rift is addressed between traditionally transsexual/transgender individuals and enbies that there will be animosity between the two groups.

I am open to change my mind and I am seeking different perspectives. What do you think?