Every day on trans related subs, I see people talking about coming out to their partner as trans. i just don't see how you could enter into a relationship with someone without them knowing, up front, who you are and that at some point into the future you may transition.

I have never dated anyone my entire life. I could never let anyone get anywhere near that close to me because I feared they'd see through me and see who I really was and take it badly. But still, even if I could keep it a secret, I could not do that to someone, knowing full well that you are trans. I wouldn't want them to fall in love with my mask, only to find out that that's not who I actually am. Like, I do not blame anyone who gets a divorce if someone springs being trans on them well into the relationship.