I'm a man in a relationship with a woman who was born with HIV. She has been on treatment most of her life and is undetectable. She even told me she had a previous partner for the better part of a decade and never transmitted it to him. We're both 30.

I've done my research and I know the whole story of U = U and how it's impossible to transmit if she stays on her medication. That's what made me feel ok entering a relationship with her, but we have been using condoms every time.

It's been about 5 months of dating and she has suggested not using a condom any more, but she did so in the heat of the moment after some drinks, so I just suggested that we keep using them for now and we carried on.

I'm still not sure where I see the relationship going, but I am enjoying being with her. I'd love to be able to remove the condom since it feels much better, but I'm still hesitant. I know I could go on prep but I don't love the idea of taking meds if I don't need to, I'm on zero medication for anything right now and prefer to keep it that way unless prep is really necessary.

I'm not totally sure why I'm posting this, I guess I'm looking for reassurance or if anyone has a story about being in a similar spot. Also accepting relationship advice, like if I should be totally committed to this woman before considering this next step.

I would obviously get tested for any other STIs before doing this and would expect the same for her. As well as an agreement that we're using protection with any other partners if there were to be any.