Hi,

I am not sure if this is the correct platform to ask this, but as Hinge is for dating, I thought to ask it here. I have moved to Tucson, AZ, last year in September from Boston. I used Hinge, and I got lots of matches. By the way, I am 29M Indian. I went on a first date with a girl who is my age, and we went on the date the same day when we started talking. We shared numbers the same day, we had an amazing date night. She asked me if I wanted to go to the mountain after dinner, and I was like sure. So, I had an amazing time, and we were on the mountain like till 3 am. She was very happy too. After that, we went on like 4 or 5 more dates, and I planned so many things for her. I gave her gifts, and I always made sure to make her feel special. Whenever we meet in-person, we have a blast. I genuinely like her very much. However, she is very bad at texting. She replies very late, or sometimes don't reply at all. So, last year, after the few dates, something happened which I will not share here. It was a misunderstanding though. She misunderstood me because of her past trauma, and she never gave me a chance to explain or convey anything. Didn't even listen to me. I kept on calling her or texting her. Sent so many sorry pics or videos, and asked her to give me a chance to talk. However, she didn't wanna communicate only which is wrong. Anyways, so we kinda ended that in September end.

It was very hard for me because I was very attached and I still am. I genuinely CARE for her. Fast forward to March,2024, my friend was constantly asking me to connect with her again as I missed her a lot, and I still used to remember her. I never tried reaching back as I thought that she would never respond. But finally, I texted her in March after my friend forced to. Worst case, she will not reply to me. So, I texted her, and guess what, she replied shortly. She talked as if nothing had happened. She shared pics of mountain where she was going at the moment at night. She shared what she was doing and we conversed as if there was no gap. Finally, I met her previous week, which was very hard to do as she is extremely busy. We hit it off again, and I brought flowers for her, and we genuinely enjoyed. She touched my hand by herself that showed that she was comfortable, and she hugged me in the end and thanked me for the flowers. She even remembered small things about me. I asked if we would be meeting again, and she Said yes.

Now, I do text her, and she replies but very very late. She sent me a selfie which was cute, but there is like a day delay too. Now, like on Monday, I texted her by asking something, she never responded. This Thursday, I just sent her a text that I am missing you a lot. Do you think that you would have some time tomorrow? I know you are very busy, but I just thought to ask. Friday is already done yesterday, but she never reached out.

I feel very hurt where I care for somebody, but the other person doesn't even communicate. I put my heart out, and I would do anything for her in a heartbeat, but she can't Even respond? I am completely ok if she says that hey,I am busy. We can meet later or whatever. Not responding at all conveys that I am not a priority. It's not like she can't see my text throughout the day. She is very busy, I understand. I am too. However, I make sure that she is cared for, and I genuinely am concerned if she is doing alright. So, I always tend to check on her. She is amazing when we meet, but this kind of behavior really hurts me a lot, and I keep thinking about it. I wanna meet her again and frequently, but Even getting a reply is far fetched here.

What should I do? Should I forget about her as it really pains me? I wanna be with her, but I don't know..I wanna feel happy that she communicates properly. I don't want anything apart from love, care, respect and trust. Please advice. If I am wrong at some place, please get back to me, so I can reflect on that.

PS, even now, she hasn't replied.

Thank you!