Partner (F24) of 4 years and I (25) have been going through a rough patch while we attempt to work on our relationship long distance. We’ve broken up and have taken a break from talking, while hoping to platonically talk next weekend about what we are working on for ourselves and how/ if to move forward.

I’m so confused because things have actually felt a lot better. I’m not stressing about how she’s doing or constantly checking my phone to see if she’s texted me or reminding myself to reach out and schedule time out to call. I am very present in my reality, making friends, and creating a new rhythm for myself. I didn’t realize how unhappy I was feeling until I started feeling joy again.

I hate to let this go, but she’s the one who wanted to break up with to begin with, and somehow it’s started to feel right for me too. I am enjoying figuring myself out at this stage in life. Her wanting to take a break like this has helped me realize I can be happy and take care of myself without her, and I just don’t know what to do with that information…