First off, I'm very grateful for everything in my present. I know who loves me and I realize that we all must say goodbye to people who we love (at some time or another) for whatever reason; be it physical death or emotional and it's a feeling that cuts deep.

In my experience, when you don't know a person, it's really easy to let go but I feel there's that gray area in which, if you do know a person in whole, you won't forget them. On top of that, there is a natural process of emotions that make us shed tears over the loss of someone who helped you grow (and I'm not talking about the mourning period of a breakup) I'm talking a wave of emotion over a lifetime. It's that grey area where your not expecting the past to come back but you're sad that its gone, sad that you're futures do not

With that being said, do you think it's wrong or weird to visit the past and cry for a spell, about your loss? And follow up question, do you think it's unfair to the partners in your present, to be emotional about your past and future, if only on your own time?

Personally, I don't think shutting a person or memory out, as if they were a tumor, is healthy, especially if there's substantial love. Why? Because I don't view people as objects or something like money. I think when you embrace the loss and allow yourself to cry, the future is open because your heart is open.

What's your take?