Obviously it doesn’t need to be limited to one, but we came up with this idea a year or so ago and here’s the gist:

No matter how busy you are, how about a day you had at work, how much stress you are dealing with, or any excuse at all… if your partner’s happiness and joy is a priority to you, you should never let a day go by where you find yourself unable to articulate one “nice thing“ you did for your partner.

For example, I knew that my girlfriend had to take a bunch of heavy boxes to her office today. Without telling her I was going to do it, I loaded up my car with the boxes, drove them to her office, and carried them all in so that she would not have to.

And just this morning she knew I was really nervous about something happening at my job today. I got out of the shower and headed for the closet to get dressed. Um.,,I never made it 😅. “On the bed, Mister! My baby needs some stress relief to clear his head!” I dropped on the bed, she dropped to her knees, and the stress dropped …well, I’m sure you can put the pieces together from there…(one VERY nice thing 😅!)

It doesn’t have to cost money. It doesn’t have to be “extravagant“. There have been days where, even though she’s not complaining, I can tell that she’s had a tough day. I will tell her to sit on the couch, take off her shoes and socks, grab the massage oil out of the closet, and give her a foot massage for 20 minutes or so….

If you are too busy to do one nice thing or “gesture”, for your partner, you are effectively conveying this message (whether you mean to or not!): “It turns out that every single thing I did throughout my day was actually a BIGGER priority and MORE important than carving out even a little small sliver of time to let you know that you are definitely a priority in my life!”

If you miss a day, will your partner think that you suddenly no longer care? Of course not! But that’s not the point. The point is that when you are in that healthy, “right relationship” for you, 97% of the time (totally made up statistic) you don’t need to be reminded. You look forward to making their day/night just…better. And that pesky 3%? I actually leave myself sticky notes on the bathroom mirror such as “Honor Your Love Today!” or “Be The Partner She Deserves!”

It’s not a game or a rule….it’s a fun way to live for two people that love to share their lives with each other 😊