Full disclosure: I don't know anything about guns. I've never owned a gun and my family doesn't have them. Just not part what I grew up with. I recently had an experience that scared me, and I wanted to know if it's legal.

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I host a gloryhole at my house sometimes for consensual kinky play. I am trans (bigender), and most of the guys I've done this with identify as straight and don't have any experience with a trans person and are just looking to get off. I appreciate that this is a new situation for many guys and it can be a little scary the first time. I always am upfront about my gender, offer verification, and answer any questions guys might have.

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I recently had a guy over who entered the house with a gun drawn. I can't see much through the hole and it took me a minute to realize what was happening but it scared the shit out of me. I asked him to put it away and after the did, I told him he scared me and asked why he did that, but he didn't really answer—just unzipped his pants and got to business. It ended up being fine and he later texted that he had a good time, but I'm still a little freaked out. Is that even legal? He didn't hurt me but the whole thing just was really scary. I tried bringing it up saying that it wasn't cool, and he just said "Chill out."