My 20 month old grandson lives with his mom, 2 uncles, maternal grandmother and step-grandfather. He has a normal relationship with all of them, but he hates me. I can't babysit him because he absolutely loses his mind as soon as his mom leaves. He won't let me hold him, play with him, feed him, walk with him. I swear I'm not exaggerating when I say if I even look at him he can sense that I want to do something with him and he recoils.

I've tried ignoring him to see if he'd come around, tried keeping him overnight to see if he'd eventually calm down, etc. I'm running out of ideas. I'm on vacation with him, my daughter and and sons and I feel like garbage. He's stressing his mom out and I can't help because he acts like I'm beating him if I try to hold him or take care of him. The other day his mom ran into a store for little over 5 minutes, and by the time she came out he was crying so bad he was borderline hyperventilating.

I know kids go through their stages, but it seems like he has a particular issue with me and I don't know why. I've always been great with kids, so this is hitting me particularly hard. I'd love to hear from anyone who went through something similar.