So I was out for drinks with three of my girlfriends last weekend, 2 of whom are married, and one of which is divorced and currently single. It's pretty common for us to frequently ask her about her dating life and even jokingly ask her if she's gotten "lucky" lately. I enjoy it, but I think my married friends really like living vicariously through her dating life.

This time, she was talking about a guy she's been on a few dates with and finally had sex with, but he told her he doesn't like giving oral sexs (but of course enjoys receiving). So, being tipsy as we were, there was a lively discussion about whether we enjoy giving oral to our significant others and how often it happens. Side note for the 'no bjs after marriage' anecdotes: my one married friend said she still goes down on her husband on a weekly basis, but the other said "maybe a few times per year" (poor guy). This turned to a general discussion of penis sizes, the comforts of giving oral sex, and jaw fatigue (middle aged women conversation at its best!).

At some point during this conversation about how my partner was "happily average" and going "from him to a bigger one" always makes me appreciate his size for going down on him. That quoted "from him to a bigger one" immediately made one of my married friends if I'd cheated on my partner. I insisted I hadn't, but she kept pressing because of the way I said it, so I finally told them about how it's consensual and we both enjoy bringing other men into the bedroom occasionally. I explained our "hotwife" dynamic to them and how he enjoys watching. They were all super interested and asked tons of questions about how it worked, whose idea it was, how we found the other men, and I think wanted me to tell them details of our encounters!

One of my married friends loves the idea and would try it (and might have been getting a little turned on by the Q&A), the other two admitted that their husbands (ex in one case) brought up the fantasy, but they weren't really into it. I also learned that unless they were being intentionally naive in their questions, I'm a very dirty slut compared to my friends!