Matt found Laura’s profile on a dating app that we had both recently joined. We’d been exploring ethical non-monogamy for about 6 months and we’d had a bit of fun in that time but it was honestly pretty hit or miss.

Most guys on dating apps have to cast a pretty wide net; they have to like hundreds or even thousands of female profiles to get even a few matches so Matt sent Laura a brief introductory message to show that he had actually paid attention to her profile and what she had to say and to hopefully to catch her eye and improve the odds of making a match. Something in the background of one of her photos had caught his eye and he hoped that talking about it a possible interest that they had in common might improve the odds of making a match.

We were pleasantly surprised when she liked him back and her initial message indicated she was interested in exploring things further and mentioned that they do indeed have a common interest. She was cute, also in her 40s, seemed very approachable, was open to dating a couple, and was interested in exploring her bisexuality as well. Jackpot! Matt and Laura exchanged a few messages on the dating app but we quickly realized we needed to move things to text or a different messaging app in order to chat as a group and to be able to exchange photos – innocent ones at first, and hopefully spicy ones later. She quickly agreed and provided her cell phone number.

In many ways it was like texting with my long-lost twin, we had so much in common it was almost scary. We were both in the same line of work and even in the same industry, albeit for different companies and in different cities. We were both new to exploring non-monogamy and bisexuality, and we both had the hots for my husband! It didn’t take long for the conversation to shift from idle chit chat to more serious and more adult conversations and the first photos were exchanged not long after. She said she was happy to move at our pace which, admittedly, is a bit slower than most as we’re still relatively new to the whole non-monogamy thing and it’s taken some getting used to; having been each other's first and only until very recently. More photos and messages were exchanged and we started to talk about the possibility of meeting for the first time. Just dinner to start and if that went well, who knows!

Even more messages and photos were exchanged, spicier and spicier but with plenty of innocent “Good Morning” and “How’s your day going” messages interspersed with shots of me bent over while being fingered and with a flogger on my bare ass, shots of Laura in and out of lingerie. Several photos of Matt’s cum all over my face. Pictures of some of her favorite toys and Laura sunbathing topless. Comments about how much fun she was going to have with the two of us. Then out of the blue one morning she sent us an audio file while I was at work along with a photo of the turquoise colored vibrator she had used the night before.

Matt and I listened to the recording in the car while on my lunch break, it was a damn good thing I didn’t try to play it at my desk! She had apparently gotten turned on the night before while we were texting and fantasized about how much fun the 3 of us were going to have together and recorded herself masturbating to orgasm while thinking about it. I occasionally get guys telling me how hard I make them or how they’re masturbating to my pictures or videos and more than a few have wanted me to watch them jerking off or to send me photos that they’ve cum on. I’ve always resisted offers like that and have blocked countless people for sending an unsolicited dick pic. Call it a double standard but somehow, it’s different when it’s a woman – and she’s into both you and your husband.

Discussions quickly turned to setting up a meeting, a casual dinner to start with and if everything went as well as all of hoped then we’d schedule another get together for later, the second time being far less innocent and perhaps a little bit naked. We settled on the coming Thursday evening at a small local Italian place roughly halfway between our cities. Matt and I were counting down the days until dinner, and as the day drew nearer we were trying to figure out what to wear and how long it would take to drive to the restaurant. Laura texted on Wednesday afternoon that her schedule had opened up that evening and wondered if we’d be interested in meeting her a day earlier than planned, in just a few short hours. We have 2 kids at home although they’re both technically adults at this point so we’re typically pretty flexible outside of normal business hours and to be honest we didn’t have anything going on that evening anyway so we agreed. The countdown moved from T-minus 28 hours to T-minus 4 hours with a single text message.

I rushed home after work to clean up a bit, put on a comfortable dress, and to apply a bit of makeup. Work is fairly casual and while what I was wearing would have been more than acceptable, I wanted to make a slightly better impression than my typical office cubicle clothes. A bit of eyeliner and mascara and a spritz of perfume, a quick change into a comfortable sundress, my favorite pair of wedges, and we were in the car driving towards a potential make-or-break dinner with Laura. Never in my life would I have imagined going on first dates, in my mid-40s, with my husband, hoping beyond hope to get lucky.

To be continued…