The Gonewild_nynj FAQ

Gonewild_nynj is a place for open-minded adult redditors to show themselves off in a comfortable environment without pressure. We're a sex-positive community for consenting exhibitionists and their admirers.

Sex-Positive

We believe there's nothing inherently wrong with sex, and that showing off our bodies can be a wonderfully liberating thing. People who post here aren't automatically sluts or whores (or if they are, there's nothing wrong with those things), so please don't make comments to suggest this. Keep comments light, friendly, and positive. This will foster a happy community with lots of new contributors, and that means more and more content for us all to enjoy! Your kindness will be rewarded.

Consent

While the word "consent" isn't exactly sexy, the concept certainly is! In fact, it's the cornerstone of the greatest parts of human sexuality. No one is sexier than the people who want you back. No picture is sexier than those of people who want you to look. The best posts on Gonewild are those made by honest, genuine people that share interests with you, engage you, and want you to see them naked. In fact knowing that they're "real" in this way and that they consent is such a big deal around here, that we have an entire system dedicated to ensuring that submitters are who they claim to be, and that they consent to being posted. This is called verification. The most-liked posters are verified, and the readers demand it of anyone who achieves a certain amount of popularity.

Posting

How do I post a picture?

First you post the image on the internet, by using an image host, the most popular of which is imgur. Then you link to that image in your post here. 

Where can I host my picture?

You should host your picture on a site that:

1. has no ads, or allows direct linking so that the ads can be bypassed

2. strips metadata and all other personally identifying information from uploads

Imgur.com and vidble.com are the most popular around here, so check out those sites. They may have apps for your phone or tablet, and while we can't offer tech support for such apps, you are more them welcome to give them a shot! Just make sure that when you post your picture, you have a clear way to delete it if you later change your mind.

Making an account with the service is generally the best way.

If you host content (images, video, etc) on a site that has unobtrusive ads that you do not benefit from, we may approve that site on a case-by-case basis.

Can I post video?

You absolutely can post video. When it comes to video hosts, our requirements are similar to those of image hosts. Please make sure the site:

1. is minimally spammy

2. strips metadata and all other personally identifying information from uploads

3. does not highlight/feature •  posters on its front page

4. is not geared to make money by recruiting r/gonewild_nynj posters sendvid.com looks promising, but sometimes displays spammy ads to mobile users. vidble.com is ad-free and was recently updated to support MP4 files smaller than 50MB. If you have any other video hosting recommendations, message the moderators and let us know.

How do I tag my post? What does that mean?

When we ask you to tag your post, we simply mean for you to put [m] or [fl somewhere in the title to indicate your gender. Examples:

•[M]y first post. What do you think?

• Thigh-highs and heels -- [f]or fans of lingerie!

The first post is submitted by a male and the second by a female. Full list of tags:

• [male], [m], or (m) for male

•[female], [fl, or (f) for female

•[MtF], [FtM], or [t] for trans*

• [cd] for cross-dressing (you can additionally indicate your gender but don't have to)

• [?] to "opt out". This tells us you don't care to indicate your gender, or just think gender is bullshit to begin with.

Fun stuff:

• [mf] or [fm] means a man and woman are both featured

•[mm] or [ff] means two men or two women are featured, respectively

• [fff] would mean three women are featured (see you on the front page)

• [mfff] would mean a man is featured with three women (brace yourself for a torrent of jealousy)

You get the idea.

It won't let me post. Why not?

Reddit pulls no punches when it comes to spam protection. If you're posting a lot, the system will force you to wait a bit between posts or comments. Verifying your email might help.

Do I have to be naked?

Gonewild_nynj is a place for exhibitionists, people who get off on sharing intimacy publicly - please include visible topless and/or bottomless nudity in your gonewild posts. Generally, if it's safe for facebook, it's too mild for here. If you prefer less nudity check out r/UnderwearGW,  r/ TeaseMePleaseMe and ) r/GoneMild.

What kinds of things should I expect? 

The internet is just a safe, fluffy cloud, right?

The internet is the general public... an interesting sample of the general public, actually. While we will do what we can to make your stay in Gonewild_nynj a comfortable one, you should consider that "once you put it out there, it's out there" (but perhaps not). Even if you delete your content, it may already be in someone's personal collection and who knows what they might do with it later. Copyright is inherent and it belongs to you, the creator of the content. With that, we may be able to provide a little help: If you find someone re-hosting your pictures and need help getting them removed, please contact the moderators.

Okay, so how can I protect myself and my intellectual property?

"Anonymize" yourself.

1. Make a throw-away account. This is just an alternate "risky-business-only" reddit account.

Yes, it's okay to do. Make sure the username is completely original and not something that could be tied back to you. Don't have your name or initials in it. Don't have your birth year in it, don't have your pets' names in it. Don't have ANYTHING that someone could google and land on a page 6 degrees from you in it.

1. Don't include your face in your pictures. Crop your face out with an image editor, keep your face outside the frame in the first place, or obfuscate your face with the camera flash. If you become a regular or have balls/tits of steel, we are not going to kick you out for including your face, but we never actively recommend it. It has to be your decision, and should only happen after you accept that family and friends will recognize you (maybe they won't, but assume the worst).

2. Just as you've excluded your face, exclude other things that could be used to identify you. You should blur out tattoos or maybe certain birth marks someone could recognize if they've seen you in a low cut or sleeveless shirt. Don't stand next to the wacky lamp that everyone in your dorm knows you for. Don't pose seductively on the hood of a car with your license plate showing. We're not looking for a boring mugshot of you in front of a blank white wall, though. You CAN be creative even under these constraints. Take it up as part of the challenge. Dress up your room a little! Reverse the comforter on your bed. Clear off the bathroom counter. Do anything to make the picture look sexy and fun, but make yourself a little less recognizable--a little harder to place.

This is your alter ego!

1. When you do upload your picture to the internet, use a service that strips EXIF data from your photo. If you don't know what that means, use imgur.com. Quick summary: when you take a photo with your phone or a modern camera, information about your location (and more!) is stored along with the picture. Imgur, Vidble and Reddit-hosting deletes all this to protect you, but other sites may not.

2. Consider watermarking your images with your reddit username. People will link to your images, or even download and re-host them. If you overlay your username with an image editor, people will at least know that image came from here. All watermarks can be defeated, but most people simply won't bother. Do not watermark with a different username or a URL, etc, as it would be considered advertising.

3. If you use a site such as imgur that allows single-use "throw away" posts, consider using an account instead. If you create an account, you will always be able to browse your pictures and remove them later. If you do not create an account, it's a little harder to get your image removed later if you change your mind.

How can I expect my life to change when I get naked on the internet?

1. People are going to masturbate to your pictures, and not always the people you'd expect. Attractive, unattractive, sane, and crazy people will be having "alone time" with you in their slide show. Some of them are going to tell you about it, and some of them are going to send you pictures of it.

2. You will receive creepy, unwanted, or unpleasant comments and private messages. This sucks, but unfortunately it happens. We do our best to remove these, but it is impossible to get them all.

3. You will get mundane and relatively pleasant requests for additional shots.

4. You will get requests for shots that are leagues more risqué.

5. You will get requests for shots of you performing indescribably nasty things (because this person is a troll or because this person is sincerely into it --you can never tell).

6. You will get completely silly requests that are either original or part of some meme ("sharpie in the pooper" comes to mind). Fulfilling these could cause people to love you or troll you further... it all depends.

7. You will get requests for personal information.

Don't give it out, ever, not even to mods. The one exception is when a moderator is trying to verify your age. In this case you should check the list of moderators to make sure you are in contact with a legit mod. Second, you have every right to refuse to give us anything personal, and we will always respect that right. In that case, unfortunately, you may not be allowed to post here and you in turn must respect that.

1. You will get requests to meet in person. Probably don't do this.

2. You will get marriage proposals. Go ahead and do this. j/k don't do it.

3. You will receive scam messages. People will claim they are mods, or admins, or the pioneers of a new adult service that can make you rich. People will request private verification of you identity, or ask you to get on camera.

4. People will offer to pay you to get naked privately (or just to send them panties you've worn) and then might rip you off. In spirit, we are not against sex work, but we do not facilitate it here in any way, as it would change the culture of our subreddit. Do not use Gonewild to do stuff for money.

What do I do about unwanted comments?

1. If someone makes a request for something you're not into, or even something you find a bit offensive, it's best to just ignore it. Not everyone is going to be into everything you're into. There are going to be some wackos that are attracted to you. Or maybe you're the wacko, ever think of that?!

2. Ignore people who say mean shit or otherwise try to get a rise out of you. Some people lead sad lives and try to disrupt the beautiful things they can't have, because it's their only way to interact with those things. Don't respond--even if you've got a real zinger of an insult ready--because a response is all they want. Do not give them what they want. Do not feed trolls. Click the "report" link under the comment and get on with your life. We'll even remove the comment if you ask us to!

But if you engage the troll... if you participate in the argument and go back and forth, don't expect us to intervene at that point. We may, we may not. In other words, we'll escort an unruly guest out of the party, but not while you take potshots at him.

Did someone say something really fucking mean?

Consider this: You posted a picture to a subreddit that has subscribers. This is just the number of people that want to see nakedness on their front page. The actual number of visitors is much more than that per day. Of these viewers, the silent majority very likely enjoyed your picture. It is clear that most people just don't comment. The haters are easy to remember, but they are often quite literally one in a million. Most people probably like you and want to see more of you. Think of them... your fans. Yes, you have fans. Everyone who posts here has fans out there. It's a wonderful thing.

If you're catching some shit from haters, well, that's just a taste of the celebrity lifestyle.

What do I do about unwanted private messages?

1. Report and/or block the user by using the links beneath the message. DO NOT WRITE BACK. That's what they want. DO NOT WRITE BACK. Please, please do not write back.

2. If the message is particularly creepy and personal, take a screenshot of it and send it to us (the mods).

3. If it asks for personal information, don't provide it. Don't do ANYTHING you don't feel comfortable doing. The worst possible thing that can happen as a result of you not complying with a message (and this would only happen if it were form an admin or a mod) is that you get banned. That's nothing compared to giving your identity to a potential stalker. So if in doubt, be silent.

4. If the user claims to be a moderator and you are unsure reach out to u/fdanrjb the first moderator of this sub. Also, you are never required to have a private conversation with a single moderator. If you feel more comfortable writing us using the "message the mods" link, please do that! All moderators will be able to see the conversation.

I can't see my post. Where did it go?

The reddit spam filter sometimes mistakenly nabs perfectly genuine non-spam posts. If you think a submission of yours or someone else has been filtered, please contact the moderators.

If you submitted a link whose content is hosted on a site that has a lot of ads or otherwise looks spammy, the link may have been removed despite the fact that your actual content is okay. Please use a recommended hosting site or any other host that doesn't have obtrusive advertisements.

We will also remove posts that run counter to our culture of true exhibitionism. If you sell stuff (panties, cam sessions, etc, then you may get blacklisted by us. Please use a separate account to post here (with a completely different/unrelated name), such that there is no economic incentive to your participation.

Can you delete my posts and pictures for me, or can I do this myself?

You can delete your posts by clicking on your username, and then on the "submitted" tab. There will be delete links under the posts. This will disassociate the post with your account, but the comments and content you linked to (your pic) will still remain. Reddit moderators do not have the privilege to truly delete a post. The best we can do is a "mod removal", which removes the post from the listings (top, hot, new, etc) and the search results. This generally prevents new users from discovering the post, and is good enough in most cases.

Users who know the URL to the post (have it bookmarked, for example) can navigate directly to the post. Users who've commented, and users who view the profile of someone who has commented, can navigate to the post via the comment, even if it was deleted.

Once you've deleted your post or had us remove it, you still need to remove the content the post links to! We mods have no jurisdiction there, so this one's all you. Some sites allow you to request content removal. Imgur does, for example. If you need to remove a picture not attached to an account you control, please fill out imgur's image removal request form: http://imgur.com/removalrequest

My post isn't showing a thumbnail.

How do I get one?

This is either a glitch in reddit or a glitch in imgur.com.

• You might have a link on the comments page of your post called "retry thumb". Try clicking that, wait five minutes, and then refresh and see if you have a thumbnail. You might try this a couple more times before resorting to other methods. If you don't see the link, send us a message by clicking the "Message the Moderators" button in the sidebar.

• You can delete your submission and resubmit your link.

• As a last resort, you can delete your imgur album, re-upload your pics, and post the new link. We've had at least one report that this brute force method works but don't have a technical explanation as to why (required meta data seems to be present).

• May 2016 update Reddit currently doesn't fetch imgur.com thumbnails with HTTPS (note the 's') URLs. Using HTTP (no 's') usually fixes this.

If you attempt to resubmit, please beware that reddit doesn't "like" rapid submissions. You might get flagged as spam. Make sure you show up in the "new" queue and if you don't, shoot us a message and we'll fish you out. Deleting and resubmitting when you don't see your post might make it worse.

I'm a professional, or a great photographer with a fancy camera. Can I post here?

While Gonewild_nynj is generally an amateur exhibitionist community, we're not going to kick you out just for getting a better camera and / or learning to take better photos! But we WILL kick you out if you are in this for money or publicity. That's just not what we're about.

This is a community for true exhibitionists. This place is for people who post pictures for no reason other than that it excites them. If you want hits to your blog, sell panties, or want to book one-on-one cam sessions, we will not facilitate this. In fact, we may blacklist your account if that account is used to do these things in other subreddits. We want to distance ourselves from financial incentives. We've all got rent to pay (figuratively speaking), but this isn't the place to do it.

Can I link to my site, Amazon wish list, or things I sell? Can I accept tips?

No, we do not allow advertising of any kind. You cannot accept money or items from users. We have this rule because we want to foster a community of genuine exhibitionism. If we allow any commercial or personal money-making endeavors, the community becomes less genuine. We're not opposed to capitalism, it's just that this isn't the place for it.

Don't try to get sneaky with advertising. If you host images on your personal domain and have ads there, even if they are on a different page, we get a bit wary. Please use an account that is not connected to financial endeavors. Don't put links in your imgur descriptions, and don't post a Morpheus meme that says "What if I told you... I'm also [user X who sells panties]". Don't link to your friend's tumblr or other blog.

Can I use Gonewild_nynj to sell stuff? Can 1 use or reference my selling account in Gonewild_nynj?

If you use nudity anywhere on the net to get gifts or money (panty selling, fetish items, cam shows, onlyfans, or anything similar) please refrain from posting here. We wish to remain separated from all money-making endeavors, so that gonewild_nynj remains a purely exhibitionists subreddit where people post for absolutely no other reason than the thrill of it.

Why do I have so many downvotes?

Reddit does something called vote fuzzing as part of the submission scoring process.

Can I post my Skype, Snapchat or

Kik name?

No, please do not. Gonewild is for exhibitionism, not hookups. While you personally may be okay with (or even excited about) kik or snapchatting with readers, we don't want it to become part of our culture. Second, we're concerned about your safety.

Outside services may reveal your IP address, may not strip geographical data from your pictures, may leak other personal information about you, or may simply not do exactly what you think they do (one example. This is a very large community with many subscribers and many more silent observers. We're all here to check each other out, not hook up. If you do want to hook up, check out subreddits dedicated to that,