I think the people who ghost their friends, lovers, and significant others (or block them etc), are trying to escape from suffering because internally they have too much suffering and chaos to even expend time for empathy.

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These people are not well.

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It's one thing to ghost total strangers because you have no responsibility for them, but people who ghost partners and friends, the more I look at them through the lens of what they told me way before they blocked or ghosted, the more they sound unwell.

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The irony being, the one person who told me he is unwell all the time (both mental health and physical healthwise), is actually is the only ex-ghoster that is communicative and self-aware enough to know that alot of his behaviour comes from himself and his own issues vs me being a trigger.

Another time I asked a guy why he ghosted back then (because we are having his conversation 3 years later since he decided to call and text me), basically said he didnt even know why he ghosted and that he treated me badly and was sorry. But then after conversing 3 days later, he ghosted again.

These people are very disorganised internally in terms of emotions. They function fine externally in society, but inside they don't really do the self work so its like when you leave all the cables behind your computer all tangled, it's just like spaghetti. Noone can fix it unless they do. That's why in romantic relationships they are avoidants, because they dont want to add another cable to their mess of cables anyway. They would rather keep people at an emotional distance so that they don't have to experience strong emotions, even positive emotions.

You wouldn't want a relationship to these people as they are right now.