If it's your bf/gf, obviously there might be alot more to unpack, but usually if someone pulls away, they cant process much more than a few sentences etc.

With dates like less serious or shorter relationships, it's way easier to keep closure short. I give them a piece of my mind for closure. Once, I even laughed at a guy for his stupid msg to me (Funnily, he still tried to get in touch with me year after year).

It's both having self-respect and showing you value yourself and your own time. I'm gonna tell them how i feel or think if they are being a douche or treated me badly, but i don't wanna spend that much time on it. I wanna unpack it as soon as possible, as effectively as possible.

If I have been wronged, I will speak up for myself and their lack of integrity. If they simply dont want to continue, it's very easy to close, because people come to you when they want you, i don't need to beg or hope that they be with me. Good riddance to them, no matter how i felt before. They dropped their feelings for me (or otherwise have some other reason they don't want to or cant be with me), so why would i want them without those feelings/emotional availability?

The initial feelings are confusing when you love someone, but love is not just a feeling, it's a commitment that requires two people to continuously foster and build and engage in.

You can't be the only person paying for gas in your shared car. If someone doesnt wanna participate or give to the relationship, you can drive alone or drive with someone else.