It's just a strange/funny situation and I wanted to share!

So, I'd been talking to this guy for quite a while, I think at least a month. He hadn't wanted to swap numbers so we were chatting through facebook messenger and sometimes his replies were really sporadic. He also had never been free to meet, although on one occasion we had arranged something which then fell through, with him not letting me know until the last minute, because he had a family emergency.... Stuff happens, I get it, but to be honest I was losing interest. I should also maybe mention here that I'm polyamorous - I don't currently have a primary partner but I been seeing someone else for a few weeks, and both of them were fully aware of the situation as I like to be really up front about everything.

Christmas day I sent a message saying happy Christmas and that I hoped he was having a good day ... No reply. I had some stuff happen around Christmas time where I was giving support to both a good friend and the other guy I have been seeing, as both were finding Christmas and new year to be a tough time for various reasons. Between that and a busy work schedule, I have to admit I hadn't thought much about the other one, but the few times I did think about it I decided not to send a message - I genuinely just assumed he had ghosted me as his messages before Christmas had got less and less frequent as well as much shorter, and then the no reply at all on Christmas day... I was a bit annoyed as there had been an occasion previously where he hadn't replied to me, then later accused me of ignoring him, and he'd made a big deal out of being fed up of being ghosted .... But whatever.

In the meantime, things with the one I've actually been seeing have progressed a little bit and there was a post over the weekend on social media that I guess made it clear that we have been spending quite a bit of time together. It never even occurred to me that the other one would see it, or care if he did... Not that that would have stopped me posting!

Well, this morning I woke up to a fairly long text accusing me of ignoring him, making passive aggressive comments about having the 'decency' to at least say goodbye and that clearly I've got other interests so he's going to block me on everything now.... Like, wtf??? Ironically he actually hadn't blocked me on facebook, I guess maybe hoping for my grovelling reply .... I'm afraid I did take the bait but only to reply that it was the second time he had accused me of ignoring him when he actually hadn't replied to me or made any attempts to contact me in that time. I then acknowledged that he hadn't actually blocked me yet and told him I would save him the trouble, then blocked him myself!

TLDR - thought I had been ghosted by someone whose messages got less & less until they didn't reply to me at all, only for me to get a passive aggressive message 3 weeks later accusing me of ignoring them!! 🤣