When is enough, enough in PE? When it's enough for your partner, or when you finally feel good about your cock? (If that ever happens, and goal posts don't continue to shift...)

By way of context, I am going to be vulnerable and share some messy details about the struggle I'vee had with my relationship with my cock through my whole life. (This is something I've worked with a therapist on across dozens of hours, so here for PE advice rather than therapy.)

I was unlucky enough to be born with a very large, vascular birthmark on my glans and it is something that has put many a woman off, and seriously damaged my self esteem.

I started at 15.5cm BP, (6.1inch) and have had gains over the last 2 years or so and sit at just shy of 17cm BP (6.7inch). Girth wise went from 13cm (5.1 inches) to 14cm (5.5inches).

Partner seems happy (and says so), will come from penetrative sex if I last long enough (decades of sexual anxiety means control is an intermittent challenge for me), and is "smaller" so I'm already a stretch and pushing past her cervix. Though she's had numerous bigger (knowing this is part of the downside of being close friends that over shared significantly before lovers), and this does play on my ego significantly - and becomes a yard stick of comparison on my PE journey too.

But I look at myself and I just want half an inch more. I know logically that I don't need it, that I am enough for her. That if I stopped worrying about it I'd likely last longer and become the lover I want to be. I know that I look smaller than I am because of the way I look with the birthmark on the head of my cock.

I have a deep yearning to be proud of my cock, and not want to hide it (obviously born out of the shame I had around my weird birthmark!) - and when I'm post pump or hang, and I'm ticking over 7 inches, I look at myself and feel that pride.

So my question to the group (with a huge ramble and a complex web of insecurity attached), is it worth pushing for that half inch? With the time commitment, the obsession, the constant focus on size and comparison...instead of letting it go and accepting that whilst I will never be proud of my cock, it is enough for my woman.