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Hello! š
Note:Ā I know this post is a bit lengthy, but I believe in being open and transparent. I wanted to give you a clear picture of who I am and what Iām looking for. If you prefer a shorter version, feel free to scroll to the bottom for a TL;DR. Thanks for taking the time to read it!
Location: Iām a software developer living in Phoenix, Arizona. My current employer requires me to reside in AZ, but my profession allows for fully remote positions with many other companies. Iām actively seeking an employer who offers this flexibility, especially if I enter a long-distance relationship. Iām willing to travel and relocate for the right person, even considering opportunities abroad if we find a strong connection. I hope you'd be willing to do the same for me, should your circumstances permit it. I can technically live in another state as long as it's not for the majority of the year, which should help with a LDR.
For now, I want to move to Philadelphia. Itās way too hot and dry here! š„µ I believe living there will increase my chances of dating locally, including nearby cities like Baltimore, DC, and NYC. Just think of all the fun day trips we could take together! Being within a 2-hour flight of most of the U.S. population would also make long-distance relationships more feasible.
I aim to live car-free, so other walkable cities like Chicago, DC, and Seattle would also be ideal if I had a partner there to help justify the high cost of living. That said, itās not a hard requirement. What are your thoughts on relocating for love?
Hobbies: I enjoy good food and love trying new restaurants. While I donāt do a lot of fancy cooking at the moment, I hope to revisit it in the futureāitās always a fun date option! Quality TV, movies, and books are also high on my list, with a particular fondness for animated works. Studio Ghibli films are definitely a highlight for me!
I used to write from time to time and would like to try my hand at it again someday. I also want to explore local attractions once I move, like museums, botanical gardens, and festivals. While I enjoy going out, Iām not into overnight or extreme outdoor activities like camping, backpacking, or rock climbing. Sports bore me to tears! š„±
My primary hobby is video games, with action-adventure and RPG being my favorite genres. The Zelda series and Stardew Valley are top-tier for me. It would be wonderful to have gaming as a mutual interest, but itās not a necessity.
What are some of your favorite cuisines or games?
Appearance: Iām 5ā9", 130 lbs., and Caucasian/German with brown hair, blue eyes, and long eyelashes. I have a slim build and a traditional look (not feminine presenting). I take pride in my appearance and exercise regularly to stay healthy and fit.
Personality: Iām rather introverted and a good listener. While I can be talkative, itās usually with someone I enjoy being around. I love deep conversations and consider myself to be pretty introspective. I appreciate meaningful connections and enjoy spending time in quieter settings, whether thatās a cozy cafĆ© or a peaceful walk.
Relationship Preferences:
- Starting Point: Iām hoping we can start as friends and see where the relationship organically takes us.
- Dealbreakers: Dealbreakers for me include smoking, being a picky eater (I prefer omnivorous diets), and being an irresponsible animal owner. I donāt own pets and donāt plan to, as Iām more of a cat personādogs donāt do much for me.
- Lifestyle Choices: I donāt drink or use soft drugs (like marijuana), but Iām okay with my partner using them as long as itās not excessive or indicative of an addiction.
- Monogamy & Age Preferences: Iām only interested in monogamy and ideally looking for someone between the ages of 20 to 32. I could consider someone a bit older, but younger would likely feel uncomfortable.
- Future Goals: Iām childfree and envision a dual income, no kids (DINK) lifestyle. If youāre a remote worker, thatās a bonus! While Iām not against someone taking care of me, I recognize that might be a stretch! š¤£
- Values & Beliefs: Iām an atheist and politically independent, valuing personal freedom and pro-choice beliefs. Itās important that we share similar worldviews.
- Physical Preferences: I have preferences for taller women with pale skin, natural brown or red hair, or an alt look, but what truly matters is someone who takes care of their appearance and health.
- Personal Growth: I strive for independence and self-sufficiency, with long-term goals like achieving FIRE and owning a home. Iām more sensitive and in touch with my emotions than the traditional masculine archetype, and Iām working on my self-confidence. I want a partner who loves and accepts those parts of me, fostering vulnerability on both sides.
- Attractive Qualities: Kindness, empathy, intelligence, and ambition are all qualities I find highly attractive in a woman.
- Role Reversal: I love the idea of role reversalābeing cared for and protected instead of always playing the stoic provider. If you're into being the knight in shining armor, I'd definitely be up for that dynamic!
- Mutual Respect: Ultimately, I want a relationship built on mutual love and respect, where neither of us feels lesser due to our personalities or preferences.
Sexual Preferences:
- Submissive Nature: I identify as 100% submissive. Iām working through some health issues that may influence my preferences, and I suspect thereās a chance I could be a switch (still leaning toward sub) once those are resolved.
- Attraction: Iām drawn to loving and nurturing women. I enjoy receiving affection both in and out of the bedroom, and Iām happy to give it to the right person, of course. Iām specifically looking for gentle femdom, as I donāt resonate with the crueler dynamic often found in traditional femdom. Iām not a brat and donāt see myself engaging in that dynamic, aside from maybe some light teasing if my partner enjoys it. I prefer a āmommyā dynamic over āmistressā or āmaāam,ā as the latter two feel a bit cold and impersonal to me.
- Interests: Some explicit activities Iām interested in include breast play (both ways š), pegging, prostate stimulation, milking, facesitting, bondage, biting, hypnosis, and most degenerate of all: cuddling. I also enjoy standard PiV sex, especially when Iām being topped. Mutual sexual satisfaction is important to me, and I want both of us to feel fulfilled.
- Hard Limits: My hard limits are pretty standard.
TL;DR:
Location:
Iām a software developer currently in Phoenix, AZ, but Iām looking to relocate to Philadelphia for its walkability and proximity to major cities. Iām open to remote work and willing to travel or relocate for the right person, even considering opportunities abroad.
Hobbies:
I love good food and trying new restaurants, and while Iām not a fancy cook yet, I hope to explore it more. I enjoy quality TV, movies (especially Studio Ghibli), and video games like the Zelda series and Stardew Valley. Iām also interested in local attractions like museums and festivals, but Iām not into extreme outdoor activities or sports.
Appearance:
5'9", 130 lbs., Caucasian/German with brown hair and blue eyes. I have a slim build and a traditional look. I take pride in my appearance and stay fit through regular exercise.
Personality:
Iām introverted, a good listener, and appreciate deep conversations. I enjoy quieter settings, whether itās a cozy cafĆ© or a peaceful walk.
Relationship Preferences:
- Starting Point: Friends first, then see where it goes.
- Dealbreakers: Smoking, picky eaters, and irresponsible pet owners.
- Lifestyle Choices: I donāt drink or use soft drugs, but Iām okay if my partner does moderately.
- Monogamy & Age: Looking for monogamy with someone aged 20-32.
- Future Goals: Childfree, DINK lifestyle, and striving for financial independence (FIRE).
- Values: Atheist, politically independent, valuing personal freedom and pro-choice beliefs.
- Physical Preferences: Prefer taller women with natural brown or red hair (or an alt look, if dyed), but taking care of your health and appearance matters the most.
- Attractive Qualities: Kindness, empathy, intelligence, and ambition.
- Role Reversal: If you're into being the knight in shining armor, I'd definitely be up for that dynamic!
- Mutual Respect: Seeking a relationship built on mutual love and respect.
Sexual Preferences:
I identify as submissive, but I may be closer to a sub-leaning switch after resolving some health problems. Iām drawn to nurturing women and enjoy gentle femdom dynamics. Some interests include breast play, pegging, prostate stimulation, and cuddling. Mutual satisfaction is important, and I have standard hard limits.
Letās Connect!
Iād love to hear from you if you think weād be a good match! Iām open to sending pictures or video chatting privately once weāve connected.
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