Location: I work remotely as a software developer and can live anywhere in the US. I’m willing to travel and relocate for the right person. If I were to meet someone highly compatible who lives in another country, I’d find a job at a company that allows me to work elsewhere. I don’t want distance to be an obstacle. I hope that you’d be willing to do the same for me (should your circumstances permit it). I currently live in Mesa, AZ, and plan on moving to the Seattle metro area in the near future. It’s way too hot and dry here 🥵. I’m surrounded by suburbanite boomers and Mormons 💀.

Hobbies: I enjoy good food/trying new restaurants and quality TV/movies/books. I'm particularly fond of animated works. Studio Ghibli tends to be a highlight when it comes to animated movies. I used to write from time to time, and I’d like to try my hand at it again someday. I’d like to go out every now and then (e.g., check out a museum/botanical garden/festival, go on a walk/hike, etc.) once I move. I’m not into overnight/extreme outdoor activities like camping, backpacking, and rock climbing. Sports bore me to tears. My primary hobby is video games, with action-adventure and RPG being two of my favorite genres. The Zelda series and Stardew Valley are top-tier. It would be wonderful to have gaming as a mutual interest.

Appearance: I’m 5’9, 125lb, and Caucasian/German (brown hair, blue eyes, and long eyelashes) with a standard/skinny-leaning body type and standard appearance (not a femboy or anything out of the ordinary). I try to keep myself looking nice and I exercise every week.

Personality: I’m rather introverted and a good listener. I can be talkative, but only with someone I like being around. I love deep conversation. I think my sense of humor and intelligence may be above average.

Relationship Preferences:

• I’m hoping we can start as friends and see where the relationship organically takes us.

• Some dealbreakers for me are smoking, being a picky eater (including anything outside of omnivorous), and being an irresponsible animal owner. I don’t own any pets and don’t ever see myself getting one. I’m much more of a cat person, though. Dogs don’t do much for me.

• I don’t drink or use any soft drugs (like marijuana), but I’m OK with my partner using those as long as it’s not excessive or an addiction.

• I’m only interested in monogamy. For age, somewhere between 20 to 34 would be ideal. I could maybe go a smidge over, but younger would probably feel uncomfortable.

• I’m childfree and want to be DINK. If you’re a remote worker, that’s even better. Not that I’d necessarily be against the idea of someone taking care of me in that way, but I figure that’s probably a stretch 🤣.

• I’m an atheist (not spiritual in any way) and consider myself to be independent/no party politically. Pro-choice and big on personal freedom in general. Naturally, we’ll want to be on a similar wavelength concerning worldviews.

• I have physical preferences like everyone else. Taller women, pale skin, brown or red for natural hair colors or an alt look if dyed, and a few other things are particularly appealing to me. But the main factor is putting in a reasonable amount of effort into appearance (and health, by extension).

• I try to be independent/self-sufficient and have long-term goals for the future, but I’m definitely not the most traditionally masculine man out there. As far as I can tell, I’m a bit more sensitive/in touch with my emotions relative to other men and can be a little timid. I want someone who loves and accepts those parts of me. I want to be vulnerable around my partner and vice-versa. Kindness/empathy, intelligence, and ambition/assertiveness are all qualities I find highly attractive in a woman.

• I want something built on mutual love and respect. I don’t want to be viewed as a lesser person because of my preferences.

Sexual Preferences:

• I haven’t had the opportunity to explore a femdom relationship with a compatible partner, so I’d say that I’m still discovering that aspect of myself to a certain degree.

• I’m 100% sub. Full disclosure, I’m working through some health problems that could be influencing my preferences to some degree. I suspect that there’s a small chance I could be a switch (still heavily leaning sub) after they are resolved.

• I’m attracted to motherly/loving/nurturing women and enjoy receiving affection in and out of the bedroom. Gentle femdom/mommydom is what I’m looking for. I’m not a brat and don’t see myself getting into that (beyond light teasing if it’s something my partner is into). So, I guess you could say that I’m more of a “mommy” than “mistress” or “ma’am” kind of guy. The latter two feel rather cold and impersonal to me.

• As I alluded to earlier, I find role-reversal to be very compelling. The idea that I can be my true self and not have to fit a certain mold in terms of behavioral expectations just because of my gender (and the same for my partner, of course). And feeling like I could be the one who’s being protected/cared for instead of always having be the stoic protector and provider.

• Some of the explicit things I'm interested in are breast play, pegging/prostate stimulation, milking, facesitting/eating out, bondage, biting, and CNC. I also like hypnosis, but I’m not sure how well that would work IRL. I think it’s important for sexual satisfaction to be mutual. I want both of us to be fulfilled.

• My hard limits are pretty standard (nothing dangerous or illegal).

I’d love to hear from you if you think we’d be a good match. I’m willing to send pictures or video chat privately.