Hello!

I'm a thoughtful, kind, somewhat foppish ectomorph who has been described by multiple past partners as "the perfect boyfriend". I generally love to make people feel good; I love cooking for partners, giving massages, etc., and I strive to be genuinely kind to everyone I encounter.

I'm very introverted yet one of the least shy people you'll ever meet; I'm confident, personable, and need to go hide in my box to be cozy and recharge. I enjoy quality over quantity in many things in life so gravitate toward deeper one-on-one relationships.

I've been described as a very balanced mix of masculine and feminine by multiple people; I appreciate the same in others and have always been attracted to women who share this and exhibit a take-charge attitude. I've always loved soft things; I love soft touches and being the little spoon. I seek the yang to my yin.

I enjoy language learning (working on Hindi now), Indian food, chess, prey animals (I've helped foster a couple of rabbits and I've gotten three squirrels to eat out of my hand), sea kayaking, barefoot jogging, travel, and personal growth.

I'm child-free and vasectomy-safe...although of course pegging is the best birth control anyway. 😇 (I'm quite experienced with it.)

Along those lines, I think of myself as fairly vanilla even though I've dabbled in a lot of different kinks and have plenty of stories; I get into orgasm control/being owned, spreadsheets for tasks and improvement, exhibitionism, and I'm open to a lot but most of all I love being directed in what ways I can make a partner's life better.

After being a city kid for a couple of decades (and remaining a city kid at heart who will return to urbania one day) I currently live out in the country next to a lake and love it, although I visit all of the above-listed cities regularly and could make anything around there work. I'm also looking at making myself very mobile in a couple of years when my Thoreau phase is over so I'm open to making connections literally anywhere in the world with an exceptionally good match. I seek a long-term romantic partner but could be open to something more casual online in the meanwhile.

Other dating stats: I'm monogamous, mostly vegetarian (vegan-friendly), and a staunch agnostic who's not a good match with Abrahamic religion.

I've had quality relationships with women substantially older and younger than I am as well as people of different races and body types; while I've noted some trends, I've found attraction to elude easy description and feel better leaving it to serendipity.

I'd love to find an intelligent, kind, snuggly, toppy, long-term partner to be cozy with amidst life's adventures. Does this resonate with you? Slide into my DMs.

Thanks for reading this far and I wish you success in your own search.

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