Unless I'm pleasing my partner, sex is just kind of meh. I get very turned on by things like breast and oral worship, and by my partner having significantly more pleasure and orgasms than I do.

Because I love to please, I've gotten pretty good at it. I understand women's anatomy better than most men. I love discovering what works for the woman I'm worshiping and giving her the best possible experience I can. I love using everything at my disposal to please you. Depending on what gets you off, I can use my mouth, fingers, vibrators, dildos, fucking machines, and even my cock (as long as I don't cum). If it's about pleasing you, it probably pleases me.

Speaking of me not cuming: all things being equal, I would love to have amazing orgasms very day, which was the case for most of my life. But then I learned that those orgasms also drained my desire to please and left me less sexually fulfilled. In order to be the best sexual partner I can be, my orgasms need to be limited -- and when I stopped focusing on them, I started having the best sex of my life. As a bonus, I learned that it's an incredible turn on to see you cum multiple times, knowing I probably won't cum at all.

OK, so that's the sexual part. What about outside the bedroom?

I'm genuinely an easygoing guy. I'm thoughtful and like to be of service in bed and out. I'm somewhat vanilla, but very sex positive, compersive, and GGG. I've been ENM since I was 18, and I'm looking for someone with the potential for being in a long-term and connect GFD, FLR, or similar relationship.

I'm adventurous, enjoy life, have a good career, live by myself, and adult well. I try to be active, stay healthy, eat well, meditate, etc. I do therapy, and believe communication, kindness, and respect are essential in relationships and life. I'm supportive, affectionate, and emotionally available. I know who I am sexually and otherwise, and it's the best me I've met so far.

I'm looking for someone mature, with a high EQ, who shares these values.

I'm often told I'm very attractive (though I don't quite get it), and regularly get comments on my shoulder-length blondish/gray hair. At the same time, it may not be a look everyone is into. I'm happy to share a picture and you're free to ghost me if it's not for you (seriously. I know rejecting someone after they send you a picture can be awkward). I'm white, 5'8 and about 160 pounds.

Generally I'm attracted to women who try to stay in shape as well. I don't usually go for BBWs. Over 40, and even 50, would be ideal for a long-term relationship.