I read a couple of comments mainly on fetlife but also on other sites that there are only 2 types of femdom. The normal kind and the type you see in porn videos. I also remember there being a post on this subreddit that someone from here argued about the existence of the term gentle femdom on fetlife and that other people were saying that normal femdom is already like that. I personally think there are 3 different types of femdom. Gentle femdom, femdom, and femdom porn.

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Gentle femdom

It has a bigger focus on nurturing and caring. Humiliation typically has no part in it and acts that typically would be considered humiliating, like having a male sub dress up like a girl, simply arent. There is a lot of cuddling/skinship, sweet-talking, both partners are very supportive of each other creating a very comfortable and safe atmosphere. Pain can still be part of it but it's typically very loving. Also a lot of aftercare. The type of dynamic is easiest described as mother and son/daughter, but that doesn't mean all gfd relationships are like that.

There aren't a lot of gfd videos (because it is relatively new and because gfd couples don't make videos... well at least they don't upload them) so most of gfd content is art and manga. With manga, it's pretty difficult to find any that aren't incest or shota.

https://nhentai.net/g/255662/

https://nhentai.net/g/186721/

https://hentai2read.com/pool_de_deatta_oneesan/1/28/

ASMR

https://soundgasm.net/u/kinkyshibby/F4M-Ill-make-your-day-better-kitten-CuddlingAffectionateGentleComfortingDominant-GFE

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Femdom

At first glance, Femdom and gfd might look the same but I personally think they are different. Femdom has more lust and fetishes. You could say there is less love but only in the way that that love doesn't get shown in a typical way. While gfd love would be more affectionate Femdom love would be more dominating. While gfd punishments would be more loving and careful, femdom punishments would be more strict. Femdom would put more emphasis on what the dom wants and less on what the submissive wants. Explaining it is a bit difficult so I will just go to the examples (funnily enough there's less "normal" femdom then gfd which is why even though I have known femdom for 9 years it's only since this year that I have found examples of it, completely thanks to https://soundgasm.net/u/kinkyshibby).

Just to add something it seems that you can find videos off lesbian femdom (lezdom) that fit into this category https://www.pornhub.com/model/rosieandalena is a very good example, but even if you just google for it you can probably find some.

Manga

https://nhentai.net/g/248696/

https://nhentai.net/g/167428/ (very good example btw)

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Femdom porn

Well, I doubt that is much to say here. Seeing as it kind of went in a spectrum from affectionate and loving to strict and cruel. Just going to any porn site and typing in femdom (like this https://www.tubegalore.com/c/femdom) does the trick. Finding something that doesn't fit into this category is the real challenge. I have nothing against this type of femdom obviously. I watch it myself although I don't prefer it.

Public humiliation, cuckolding, permanent chastity, and so on. Typically not so easy to show love when any fetish you pick adds humiliation to it.

Calling it femdom porn because that the easiest way to identify it.

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If you think about it its kinda like this https://imgur.com/a/SDcfOwT (my horrible attempt at visualizing it). While femdom shares things with both gfd and the more extreme side those 2 don't share any similarities.

Now too invalidate everything I have said above.

Relationships are pretty complicated, me trying to add and define these terms doesn't help all that much because fetishes and relationships are incredibly subjective. Don't take any of this is as for how you're supposed to have a femdom relationship.

The reason why I made it is because I wish I knew about this sooner. Since I went 7 years without knowing about gentle femdom at all and 9 years without knowing you can have "normal" femdom.

Sure you could make the argument that even defining any of this is kinda pointless. But if you where too met someone you're probably better of being more specific. saying "I m into gentle femdom." then "I m into femdom.".

All of this is my personel opinion and if people want to share theres pls do, id love too talk about it.

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