Hello beautiful people

So, after interacting with multiple subs or wannabe subs, I noticed a pattern. I'm not sure if other doms have experienced this, but with many of the ones I spoke with, they expect me to behave a certain way. They see I'm a dom, so they expect I will lead the conversation, do everything to appease them, ensure their safety and protection while they do nothing for me.

As someone who's looking for a FLR LTR, that was quite disheartening for me. I feel unsafe around men due to my past traumas with them and just because I'm a dom, it doesn't change that. Unfortunately, just because I'm a dom, that's been taken for granted.

What I noticed in the femdom community that people don't understand this simple thing that before I'm a dom, I'm a human being. You can't fit me in a cardboard box. My needs, likes and dislikes are very different than another dom. My personality is more than just being a "dom". For example, I'm very emotional and romantic, I believe in old school romance. That doesn't fit the image of how a dominant woman should be, but that's who I am.

I can't believe I'm typing this, but yes, doms also need reassurance that they're doing good. They also need a shoulder where they can keep their head. They need support too, just like any other normal people. Heck, I even love head pats and being called a good girl especially if I'm going through a rough patch. But that doesn't make me any less of a dom.

To the doms who are "unconventional" like me and don't fit the image of a traditional dom woman: you're not alone. Unconventional under quotation cause there's nothing really unconventional about it, everyone is different with different personalities but apparently many people don't understand that simple logic.

Doms, if you have undergone through the same thing as me where people have projected their idealized image of a dom on you, then I'm sorry. You deserve better. I hope someday you find that sub who sees you for who you are and accepts each and every side of you unconditionally without any judgement. I hope they care about your safety and provide you with warmth, love and stability. You deserve the best, and I'm rooting for you. 💕

And for the rest of the people reading this, I hope you have a great day 💕