As a guy, growing up I always kind of knew before having sex that I liked submissive elements and being tied. I'm a switch now and do like taking control from time to time, but it wasn't until an experience a couple years ago where I fell in love with gentle femdom.

It was with my partner at the time, who was also a switch. She brought out cuffs, stripped me, blindfolded me, and tied me down to the bed. She toyed, teased, and played with me forever and it was making me so ache so badly. Finally she got on top of me and it was the hardest I'd ever finished in my life. It was so passionate and intimate, and I loved being used and taken care of that way.

I haven't had an experience like that since, but it opened my eyes to the possibilities of a relationship like that.